why would a guy ask for a number straight away?

[NoWineInTheFridge]

Hi,
Ive ventured onto POF recently and was messaged by a seemingly nice guy. When he replied he told me I seemed so nice, could we swap numbers straight away, he doesn't like messaging on POF.

I made an excuse not to, I am actually staying somewhere at the moment with really poor signal, so I said there was no point.

Anyway, he messaged a couple of times during the week and as I am coming back in the next couple of days, he suggested a coffee and asked for my number. I gave it and he send a message back about how I could trust him. So that instantly made me suspicious.

So I got my sister to message him from her profile and he messaged back straight away asking for her phone number and giving the exact same reasons.

What is this about? Im now regretting giving my number, it seems odd

Big red flag on trampling over your boundaries wine. He's very persistent despite trying to play you. Run for the hills.

Oh my H used those same reasons as to why it was better to message outside pof. It's much harder to keep things secret if you're on the computer rather than a phone. The phone can be kept with you at all times while a computer screen is much harder to conceal. (Didn't keep me from discovering everything he just thought he was being clever. )

I don't see why there's anything wrong with someone collecting a lot of potential numbers and going on a lot of dates. You're not in a relationship with someone until you've spent some time together and discussed whether you want to carry on dating, so it's not 'cheating' to make lots of contacts.

Oh right, x-post and he's pushing for a meet. Tell him to sod off and move on.

Usually I find it's because they're hankering for dirty photos via text or whatsapp

He says he hates texting and that is the main reason.
He first text yesterday evening and I didn't reply until gone 11pm and then he actually called me instead of texting. Said he just prefers speaking to people.

Wants to call me again.

He said the Veni Vidi Vici thing is because he'd been reading a book about Julius Caesar when he set up his profile! of course he had!!

How did he know it was your sister? And that you had asked her?

He didn't know it was my sister, he assumed I had got a friend to message him because on our profiles we are both down as being from the same place, which is quite small, and we are similar ages.

It was a bit obvious with the timing of the messages as well. I don't think he clicked at first but then when I stopped replying and shortly afterwards she did, I think he just figured it out.

I would listen to your gut. if you're not happy, walk away. There's plenty more fish in the sea

When it comes to online dating, you don't owe anyone anything. You can call a halt at any time and, if the person persists, you can block him her and it's fine to be rude to someone who is being pushy or creepy.

I know, I am happy with doing that, I just didn't know whether maybe I'd jumped the gun and got him wrong. My initial reaction to him when we first messaged, was to like him but I am extra vigilant after a few bad experiences so my back went up quite quickly.

I didn't expect to hear from him ever again so when I did, I thought maybe he could be a good guy after all?