Just needing a bit of sympathy/empathy I think....
About six weeks ago I bumped into a guy I know from school on the street. I always see him around and have always thought how good he looks. We chat for a bit, I go back to the office thinking he's lovely. My colleague says I should ask him for coffee. I dismiss that - as I'm not sure he likes me like that. Then out of the blue he emails me and asks me for a coffee. I'm thrilled. He doesn't have my email address so has gone to the effort of tracking me down.
We start emailing a lot and also texting a lot. He's very attentive. His texts are super flirty. I'm thrilled about this too. Any one who knows this guy would think he was a super nice bloke - like all my friends who also know him think he's a long term relationship sort of guy.
However pretty early on a few things start to bother me. It's sort of hard to pin him down to actually go for the coffee. He'll text me constantly and then disappear for a couple of days. If I comment that he's quiet he'll say 'oh, just been busy' or 'just been out and about' (making me feel like I am being really silly). He doesn'st ask me on another date, so I bite the bullet and ask him, he says right away, 'oh sounds great' but it's just really hard to make an arrangement with him.
Anyway skip until the weekend and I'm out for lunch with a few girls also from school, one of whom I don't know that well and has no idea this guy has been sniffing around (horrible expression but you get my drift). She mentions in all innocence, 'oh did you hear X (the guy from school) has a new girlfriend from London'. I think he's been seeing her all along, or at least from pretty soon in and it's now got serious to the point where this girl is coming up from London to stay with him and be introduced to his friends etc. He was texting me on Friday night saying he's on his way to London!!
Thing is, I knew something was off, and it was odd that he was constantly texting but not wanting to meet up (in retrospect it's because he has a girlfriend and in his stupid boy head meeting up would be crossing a line whereas texting me all the time isn't) but I suppose I gave him the benefit of the doubt because it's someone I was friends with at school, to everyone who knows him he seems like a really nice guy etc i.e. I gave him trust that he didn't really deserve. I'm an idiot!
I've confronted him now. His response at first was basically sort of trying to gauge whether I might still want to be in contact even though I now know he has a girlf. Then when he realised that wasn't going to wash he is giving me the 'oh I am so sorry etc etc'.
Anyway, nothing anyone can say, just wanted to share. Feeling a bit sorry for myself and the problem is I've got used to him texting me all the time and going to miss that.