Hi posted a thread on the parent bored last week regarding my 8 year old daughters change of behaviour and issues with not wanting to go stay at her grandparents anymore, dont want to have to write all the back history up again so i appologise if its confusing.
Basically since her dads moved out of grandparents house shes not enjoyed going, she normally goes every weekend without fail, but is not wanting to go any more. Below is what i commented last night on the thread but things have taken a turn since last night.
*DD has been really good all week think the grounding worked well BUT she went to stay at grandparents last night as usual and she normally sleeps Saturdays aswell but 5pm today grandma rang me and said she was been a little horror apparently fighting with her 9 year old cousin and then getting lippy with grandma, she said my daughter was adament that she wanted to come home so for the first time in a long time shes with me on a saturday night.
Her dad was supposed to be staying tonight to spend time with her aswell so she was wanting to see him, ive rang him up and offered him chance to come see her at mine to cheer up and hes turned up for all of half an hour with his gf and were heading to the pub all smartly dressed so something tells me that no matter where dd was they were going out tonight. I wanted to have a serious tal with him about this situation but i dont wanna talk in front of the gf havent got a problem with her but i dont want her butting in etc.
So anyway i work sundays and now havent got a sitter for her as grandma is in a strop told me when went for her if she comes home shes not coming tomorrow as shes got alot on and not deeling with stroppy kids (exact words) so im now stuck for someone to have her waiting on her dad to get back to me but obviously hes out, my mums nowhere to be found and my other kids dad has agreed if cant get anyone she can go with him and kids to his but that is not ideal they arent close even when we were together he never really showed much interest in my dd but at least i know i can rely on someone.
Im so annoyed now with it all, feel like a bad mum there must of been obvious cracks in this routine for sometimes and ive just been letting her go no questions asked*
So today I managed to get her dad to come and get her he looked rough as anything obviously hungover told him i hope hes fit to drive and he laughed at me. I finished work at 6pm and my other ex was dropping the others off at 6.15pm so wanted to hurry home i had asked dds dad if he can drop her off at around same time, when i finished i noticed a txt saying hes dropped her at his mums and ill have to collect her as his dads out (normally drops her off) FFS they live a 10 min walk from me why cant his mum just walk wit her, so ive had to make a detour and be late to let the others in. I was so annoyed been fuming all day as it is so i thought sod it stayed quiet too long so ive rang her dad up and his gf answered his phone said he was in the bath and that he would ring me back got to 9pm and still no call so ive sent him a very long txt basically saying either get back into a better routine or i will stop the visits to his mums, its effecting her school work and her behaviour at school and home. Ive had a very nasty txt back (bit out of character of him hes usually really laid back and no care in world) saying "well you wouldnt hack her not coming since like to get rid of your kids to spend time with whatever fella you have on the go"
I have a feeling his gf has sent it, because thn i had another not long after saying "sorry i will talk to dd tomorrow ill pick her up from school and we can sort this out" I have only just found the courage to txt back was so upset by the first txt. Ive just said ok and not to send txts like the first 1. Hate arguing with people dont know what to do