DH iPad history says Adult work

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What to think? I found Adult Work on DH's History on his iPad. There was a few pages which showed up over two days when I was away and no where else. There were quite a few ads.pubmatic in his history the days before. We have Sky which stops you going on adult channels - kids protection, so when i put adult work in mine it comes up as blocked by Sky. He cannot change the Sky setting as its my password in my account.

Anyway, not that odd that a DH might from time to time look at porn but what did register was that all the pages were about Gay Sex.

I asked him about it and he denies it, he said no way he's not interested in that. However, I now look at him and wonder if he is Gay and lots of weird thoughts are in my head now. I have known him 12 years and that thought has never crossed my mind - we have a good sex life and he's always the keenest. My son from my first marriage is gay which I am totally happy about and no it wasn't him on the iPad, he has his own and has been away from home for years and has never been on DHs iPad.

I guess the question is could this be a virus? do I believe him or is he covering up?

Adult work is a site for hook ups with escorts.

nope not a virus - I think sadly he is lying to you.

Definitely not a virus. There are male, female and transgender escorts on the site, I know because I had a friend who escorted and had a profile on there. He said the majority of men who messaged him were open that they were married and curious and he often visited them in the family home. My stomach used to churn at the idea, but it was just a job to him.
I'm sorry op, but you did say you were away while this site had been viewed, if he'd messaged anyone to meet it would show up in his emails.

This isn't what you'll want to hear but last year I found out that my dh of 19 yrs was gay.
1 yr before, our marriage had problems and we went for counselling to try and sort it out, even during the counselling he never disclosed what the real problem was. It was only because I eventually became convinced he must be having an affair and searched the PC history that I discovered gay porn sites. When I asked outright if he was gay he told me yes. Seems he had discovered he was a few yrs before.
I remember joking months before that I was sure he was gay as when he'd been out drinking and fallen asleep the sky was always left on the gay adult channel. I naively thought it was just sky and he never let on otherwise.

I never ever would've guessed he was gay. We had a good sex life and a good marriage prior to all this.
If hes not ready to say then you can't make him but you can keep an eye on things to see if there's further clues. My dh told me that if I hadn't asked he would never have told me and instead just left eventually.

Thanks for replying - appreciated. I did ask DH and he put his hands up and said that he had googled red tube for a little look after his friend had told him about it a few weeks before and then there were pop ups which he didn't like and that he then panicked and closed it. He said he switched on the next day and it was still there on safari and more pages popped up.

Anyway, some makes sense as the google search did say red tube and there were only a couple of pages in the history. Can't prove anything further so I guess I have to leave it and let life continue. Has left a bit of lasting memory flash as sometimes I look at him now and think 'Is he?'

If you have parental protection, how did he get on to Redtube- just a question.

I have had the misfortune of having Adultwork as an issue in a relationship and I would say that I am 99.9% sure that, that site doesn't give you pop ups. It never did when I researched it.

I guess it's good that he "held his hands up" to something.

Adultwork isn't porn, it's prostitutes.
If I were looking for porn and stumbled onto it I'd get myself the fuck off it as quick as a flash.
But he went on it over several days.

What did he deny - that he was looking at gay pages on it, or that he looked at it at all?

Yes, sorry Adult Work is not a porn site, it's a site people use to hook up with prostitutes... Sounds like he's lying. Is any other behavior suspicious?

I don't know how to approach my partner about the fact that he is a member of Adult work. What should be my starting point? (he left his laptop on and I had a look at what sites he was using) Is there anything we can do to get this site removed from the internet.

The way you approach your partner is to tell them you know precisely what Adult Work is. People cannot find themselves on that site by accident, they have to search for it, so don't believe any shite about "pop-ups" or anything else.

And no, there isn't anything "we can do". "Escorts" and prostitutes earn a living any way they can. An internet presence probably means that the workers are able to freelance and keep their earnings for themselves rather than having their money stolen from them by pimps.

Nothing on God's earth will keep punters from finding what they want on the internet other than a permanent power-cut.

What? If you take that website down another one will pop up in it's place.

The responsibility is on your partner not to USE the website, not for the website to cease to exist. It's a very sad reflection on your relationship if your partner is only able to remain faithful to you once you have annihilated every avenue for cheating.

I think if your partner is a MEMBER of adult work, then you should be taking screen shots of everything you can find to prove infidelity and then kicking him out and starting divorce proceedings.

In my personal view, I have zero respect for men who cheat on their partners with another woman, but I have ACTIVE loathing and disdain for men who cheat on their partners with prostitutes. It's beyond pathetic.

How did he bypass parental controls?
Are you sure you don't get pop ups?
You certainly get adverts.
Log into his account and check messages. If he's arranging meets there will be in inbox and sent items.
Maybe he clicked on an ad out of curiosity and registered out of curiosity then had a bit of a perv but did nothing more.

AW has partner sites which come up as pop ups on other websites like red tube. One of them is the gay website.
Not all AW members are escorts, you can get everything from webcam performers to people selling things. There is also a text message service. So it doesn't automatically mean your Dh is hooking up with escorts!
He may have just been curious - surely that's not such a terrible thing? There weren't loads of pages of history so I doubt he was logging in and browsing different pages.

I'm finding more and more out about my DP and since he likes toys he wonders what it would be like to sleep with a man or a ladyboy, but is 100% attracted to women. it's weird. He's not gay in any way shape or form. I watch lesbian porn and also a lot of other different types, I'm not gay.
However I can see how the escort site is worrying you and you need to sit down and have a truthful conversation about it, tell him it hurts you wondering about it and make him tell you, just be truthful with each other, communication is a massive part of every relationship and as I am in my first ever serious one right now it's becoming more and more apparent to me that talking truthfully and not hiding anything is so important, and I've realised withuot trust, there's no relationship.
Also I know a lot of sex workers and most of them are cam girls. but just check for pop up sites cos when me and dp are browsing porn sites we get about 15 pop ups from the same sites.

Adult Work has many purposes.. live web cam is an option. Along side arranging meetings for swingers / Gay / Trans / Male and Female escorts i know this as my partner watches it from time to time if he has a fantasy in mind and openly discusses it with me. There are no passwords that are unknown to each other well the screens are always open as we are both awful at remembering passwords for things so it’s definitely a good idea that we both know each other's. Everything is transparent and always has been. But if you do have any doubt in regard to him arranging meetings maybe see if any cash is spent in larger amounts ? Xx

Zombie thread from 2014.

I'm finding more and more out about my DP and since he likes toys he wonders what it would be like to sleep with a man or a ladyboy, but is 100% attracted to women. it's weird. He's not gay in any way shape or form

How naive can you be?

@Huskylover1 I know right 😂