Fiance left. Heartbroken.

[Wantmylifeback]

I posted last week that my fiance had left me and dd. It was not a healthy relationship with lots of fighting and bickering and faults from both sides. We were together 7yrs.

I am just devasted which i didnt think i would be. I can only describe it as i feel like some1 has died and i dont see how i will ever be happy again.

Im lonely, sad and angry that he can just walk away like that and not even try and fix it.

How long does it take to 'get over it'?

Its very sad to read about your breakup Wantmylifeback. I am sure you must be feeling numb and raw.

If you can, try not to think in terms of how long it will take, that is probably not going to help you. It may be better to take each day as it comes.

You have described your feelings as if it were a bereavement, that's because it is. You need to go thru the mourning process, because your relationship was important, so of course it will hurt. There is no "right way" to break up, whichever way it happens it is shite. So all you can do for now is focus on practical, positive things to try to divert your attention. Try to take care of yourself, eat little and often, rest and focus on your DD, of course. I cant assume your personal circ's but can you either get away over Easter or have a couple of nice days out, keep busy and get out of the house? That will lighten your mood.

You will be in survival mode at the moment, this process will take as long as it takes no point trying to predict the future, just stsy strong, stick with it and if you can lean on family and friends you are close to, they are bound to want to help cheer you up!

Be good to yourself and dont do a massive post mortem about it in your head, just blank it out, its all too early for you and dont go blaming yourself, no point!