As many know on her PE DH and I separated four weeks ago after a couple of months of turmoil. We had an awful year and stopped communicating culminating with his fateful words "I don't love myself so I can't love you, I have no feelings". Lots of hurt followed lots of nasty things said by both of us, as tends to happen I imagine in these circumstances.
Thing is I still love him. I still thing that stress/depression (on both sides) has had a lot to do with it, alongside my medical problems following a miscarriage, which may lead to me needing a hysterectomy.
He says things like 'I don't know if there is anyway back' and 'I don't know what you want, you either want me back or want to divorce' (to me) when I mention divorce. We get on still - we have a family night on a Saturday at the request of DS who is struggling with this. We do bicker/get upset about the situation sometimes (but not in front of DS) but generally it is ok.
My question is really just if anyone has been here and sorted it - can a separation be a positive thing to move a relationship on? Nobody else involved. I have tried to move on - booked a couple of holidays for me and DS, lots of activities etc. but in reality I (and DSS) just want life back (15 good years, six bad months).