Suspicious about explicit pop ups on gf's computer......am I right to be?

[Ihatebubbleguppies]

Hi all

I'm a bi sexual woman, in a relationship with a woman and have been for a couple of years now. This is basically irrelevant, but just wanted to make it clear I'm not a guy, in case people got confused when I refer to my gf.

I'll get straight to the point. 6 months or so a go, I noticed a lot of what I would call 'inappropriate' advertising pop ups on gf's computer.

Now, when I was first exploring my sexuality, I did visit some bi websites, not really dating, but more help and advice forum type things, but I do still get match.com and similar dating sites popping up, even though I've never actually been on it, but I know that this is why. So I understand that whatever you've been browsing gets stored and similarish website advertisings will pop up and we both have these kind of things randomly coming up and I always used to think I understood why. However, as i say, for the past 6 months or so, I've noticed her pop ups are sometimes quite explicit. Well, very actually. As in pornographic- boobs, ass and clips of women writhing around. I've never had this, but I do know that whatever website I've been on, seconds later, I get lots of advertising from those very sites, or similar. I don't get just random pop ups iyswim. So when I saw these keep popping up, I asked her why and she said that she didn't know, it was probably because she'd been on similar sites to me, a couple of years back and that it was unusual that I didn't get them if that were the case.

So it had been a few weeks and realised that I hadn't really seen any recently and then all of a sudden, this incredibly explicit pop up came to the right of her screen and she tutted and said "damn, I'll have to turn the pop ups off again". I didn't even know you could do this, so I asked what she meant and she said that she had turned them off, because they were pissing her off, but she had to turn them back on for tests she had to do online for a job interview.

So basically, I'm just wondering if this is actually possible. I don't want to say that I don't trust her, because I really think I do. However, something just isn't adding up to me. It could just be that I'm not as computer savvy as she is, so this could just be complete ignorance on my part...........which would be embarrassing

I haven't accused her of anything, obviously, but she knows I don't really get why it keeps happening.

Thanks for reading. Any advice appreciated.

Thankfully I haven't had a pop up in years! I don't get them on my work PC at all.

At home i use a Mac and don't get them - though I don't visit any unsavory sites. (Actually I did click on a link recently and it opened a site that was hard to get rid of - had to click many times to get it to go away - can't remember what it was though - probably something via FB)

XP used to get them on his laptop at home - not porn ones though. I used to watch footie games of funny sites (are they called torrent sites?) and sometimes TV shows too. I think he got lots of dodgy stuff from these sites as 2 laptops were quickly fucked despite having up to date virus software. When I got the MacBook I wouldn't let him go to these sites on it.

I don't know about the technical side of things but those dodgy sports/TV websites can't be trusted. Still I never saw any nasty porn pop ups - just finance, gambling etc

So, Cheese, would you tell her then if it were brought up? I personally see it as a form of cheating, but I know that is subjective. If you know she wouldn't be upset about it and would tell her if she asked, then I guess there isn't a problem. I take it then, that it wouldn't bother you if she was doing the same?.... I did actually ask her why it kept happening, but she is very touchy and so she got upset and assumed I was accusing her, so I just left it.

I asked her what her feelings about it were at the beginning of our relationship.

This thread isn't about our relationship though :)

Sounds like you have embarassed her. Porn is in no way cheating, but you should let her know how it makes you feel so that she can make a decision based on that wheter to watch it again (if she has been watching it)

How is your sex life?

Please don't ruin an otherwise good relationship with an allegation of cheating. It may well be the OP girl friend is entire innocent.

Viruses can exist on any website, even mumsnet had a few nasty pop ups recently.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/site_stuff/a1998233-Porny-serve-ad-pop-up-web-page-opening-from-an-MN-thread

Does the OP trust her girl friend?

It could be a virus that has bypassed her anti virus,it does happen even to up to date soft ware.
Torrent sites or normal not popular but not necessarily unsavoury web sites also can have these pop ups .
She needs to clear her computer history, cookies,cache etc.

I believe switching off/ on pop ups is true even to visit regular sites as they have adds or requests pop up for that site iykwim.

You suspect her of porn but you really don't have much more to go on so it's down to trust.

Oh, sorry Cheese. Didn't mean to offend. I was just intrigued, that's all.

She does get easily embarrassed and yes, I think this was another case of that.

Without sounding too smug , our sex life is amazing and she always tells me that she couldn't want any more and I feel exactly the same. There's nothing lacking, but of course I know that people don't just view porn because something is lacking. She told me about her porn hatred before we even got together, so I don't think it's a cover up or anything.

ReallyTired, overall I do trust her. I think my problem is that I don't trust anyone, or anything 100%. I am naturally quite a suspicious person, but I don't accuse her.

Those sports p2p sites are the bain of my life. DH knows very little about tech but tries to use them on my PC and dd1's laptop. We end up with all kinds of malware, virus' and annoying ad bots.

He had poor dd1 in tears not long ago woth a crypto lock virus he installed while trying to access some kind of american sports thingy. The poor child thought the FBI were coming to take her away for interrogation

We have virus protection on and newer virus' often slip through.