This is really getting me down I have been with my boyfriend for 15 months now, and we met while we were still at university. We are in the same year (different subjects) and i graduated in the summer, but he has to do resits in a few weeks because he completely cocked up the whole year. He has moved in with me for a few weeks,as his student lease is up, on the understanding that he is here to revise. However, he has not even picked up a book, and seems utterly infazed by the prospect of having wasted three years. I on the other hand had to work bloody hard to stay in uni, as I had my dd at the end of my first year and had no support from my family. This attitude just seems to be ingrained, and I find it unappealing to the point of being repulsive. I can't see what I can do to help him more than I already has, and he gets very defensive when I bring it up. He honestly can't see what my problem is. He is in the middle of looking for a house, but doesn't understand that while he has no job noone in their right mind would take him. He hasn't even applied for any jobs Under these circumstances, is it fair to tell him to move out? I feel like it would worsen things for him, but at the same time it is really hard for me to cope with feeling so angry towards him. sorry for the ramble