I smell, my kids are dirty and unfed and my house is a TIP

[fattiemumma]

or so say's my Ex MIL, SIL, and MIL's Sister in their statements to court!

I am absolutly fuming.
the entire of thier statements are almost carbon copies of one another so they have clearly spoken at length about what they atre going to say.

I am so angry. i don't know whether to lauigh, cry or just drive round and bitch slap the lot of them.
we are in court monday for the fact finding hearing and these statements are for that...i think they will all be there in person as well.

they have said my kids were always so dirty they had to strip them naked and wash them and their clothes, that they had to drive with windows open as they stank so much, that they had to ask me to have a bath!

it is obviously just very low cheap shots which will be blown out of the water when we get to court but its not the point. i justc an't beleive anyone would be so vile.

My son has SN so he gets seen by hundreds of different people all the time, somet8mes without me even knowing about it so if they were that filthy then surely someone would have mentioned something.
also if i am sucha bad mum why is he only asking for contact and not residency?

GRRR

I don't know anything about your situation or you, but this sounds absolutely ridiculous, and I hope they are shown to be the idiots they obviously are when it gets to court.

My sister has just been proved right about everything to do with her dd's father after they all had to go through psychological profiling due to him being an knob. She and her daughter were found to be highly intelligent and secure with a strong mother-daughter bond. He was found to be of low-average intelligence with multiple issues (including, and I quote, "Mild hopelessness").

So be strong and don't stoop to their level.

FM - it sounds like part and parcel of the dirty tricks someone would pull to get the court on side.

It must be infuriating for you, but, i suspect that unless there are professionals (gp/medical/hv/social services/senco or whatever)that report the same, the court will see through it.

How daft to say that if they are really just going for access.

Poor you, what nasty people Well, it's an old adage, but often true, what goes around...... I'm sure they'll get what's coming. People like that are always found out. Stupid women. Very for you

Don't know your situation but i have a finding of fact hearing next week on tuesday,wednesday and thursday.
Mine is because of my xp being abusive to my ds1.
Hope all goes ok for you.

The Court will see through their lies, good luck.

...and good luck to you too, tortoise

FM, just concentrate on how fortunate you are to be getting away from these people. I'm a firm believer that courts are well used to the lies people tell and can do a fairly good job reading between the lines.
Emsiewill - how satisfying that must have been Ha! low intelligence!

Thank you.

I am lucky in many respects that my DS has SN. it means that we have so many people visit us, i am at the school more often than not and he has had report after report made about him and on every single one it describes him as a happy healthy CLEAN little boy. they also state that given the circumstances i am doing incredibly well.

the thing is i know they will not get anywhere with this as it is so over the top it is clealry unbeleivable but it just hurts me that 3 supposedly intelectual adults would behave in such a childish pathetic manner in order to score points.

it does go to show that they are clearly concerned about the evedence that i have to show he was violent that they need to lie.

I feel sick but at the same time almost pleased that they have made themselves look so ridiculouse. i am hoping that becasue there is so much evedence on my side to the contrary of what they have said it will go to show that hi entire family are clearly freaks and will just be disregarded.

I am in court tomorrow, tuesday and wednesday for the finding of fact. the accusations are of domestic abuse, physical emotional and sexual.
and that most of what happened was done in front of my DS.

Good luck with the court hearing FM. Can you think about marshalling (professional) witnesses who could be taken seriously to counter those statements? - GPs, health care visitors, teachers, whoever has had occasion to see you and dc regularly.

Good luck with the hearings FM, I know it is no help but I would exect the courts will take these statements for what they are - a blatent and obvious attempt to try to discredit you. Remember courts do not like it when it appears that people are ganging up on someone - which it will be obvious they are doing if their statements are particularly similar!

I have already had statements from school and the Child assesment service submitted to court in support of my claim that DS suffers behavioural regressions following his visits to his dads and they have the comments in about him being ahppy and healthy etc.

I will advise my council to say that further evedence can be submitted at tge courts request to show that what they have stated is indeed false and deeply offensive.

the statements are so very similar it is obviouse they were either written together or coluded on.
as i say, im not worried...just down right angry at their immaturity.

TBH, the whole courts/children system seems to bring out the ultimate of peoples petty and childish sides! Clearly you have risen above them, simply by taking the situation seriously and giving it the respect it deserves rather than taking it as an opportunity to be plain silly and nasty about someone they have some kind of grudge against!

It never ceases to amaze me how ridiculous some people are when they get into the court system - I mean don't they realise that courts are not interested in dirty fingernails - they are there for children who are actually in danger!