Am I being silly or am I right to feel hard done by sometimes??

[Lj8893]

Recently I've been feeling like I do everything and that dp takes it for granted, but I don't know if I'm being silly and exaggerating it all in my head.

We have a dd (5months) and I'm on ML, he works 6 days a week 11.30am - 6pm.

I like to keep a tidy house, but I'm not obsessive, our home is clearly lived in!

He cooks maybe 4 times a week, I cook 3 times, sometimes more. He puts the weekly bins out ( with reminder from me!) that's his contributions.

He leaves a hell of a mess after cooking and never takes his plate out when he's finished. Or cup or any rubbish etc.

Dd wakes up once or twice a night. I get up and feed her 100% of the time, he doesn't even wake. Same as in the mornings, he doesn't get up till about 10.30 and I sometimes have to nag him to get up. He quite often falls asleep on the sofa after watching tv till 2am.

He moans I nag him, and he's right I do nag and I hate nagging him but I just feel I do everything whilst he has a nice easy life.

Please be honest with me, I need some outside perspective!!

[Lj8893]

I said thank you last night and remarked on how clean the kitchen was and that I was impressed!

Feel like your my mum logg1e

[Lj8893]

When I said I don't expect it to last, it wasent an insult, I meant it as in I don't naively expect it to have changed overnight and I have nothing to worry about but I'm hoping it means he knows he hasn't been pulling his weight and that he is beginning to put it right.

[Logg1e]

Ha! I was thinking about training puppies - catch them doing something good and praise them.

[Lj8893]

[Jan45]

He's lazy, he says you nag when in fact you are justified to complain.

He's possibly now realised that he's been taking the piss for too long and is now making an effort, an effort which he should have been doing anyway, you sound like a single parent.

[WhateverLover]

My DP is the same. Always leaving stuff around but his argument is that the kitchen is his domain, and yes, it's almost always clean, but there's a whole lot more to be done that he doesn't acknowledge. Tobacco and empty packets are always lying around as well as pocket change (which I keep) and other bits and pieces that he has picked up throughout the day. We are moving soon and I hope that a shiny new flat will give him an incentive to clean up after himself a little more. I have a huge roll of binbags in preparation for this not being the case, though

[RedRoom]

Hurray! Long may it continue!

[whatdoesittake48]

I suspect a lurker...if it has the desired result then good...