DP went out yesterday afternoon with friends for a 'blackening'. It's a tradition where we live where the bride and groom (few weeks before the wedding) get covered in treacle, goop and that kind of thing. Huge drinking session etc.
DP came home at tea time yesterday for a shower and was completely pissed, but went back out again. I hate his drinking, but try to detach from it to a certain degree, but thought 'It's his friends wedding, and this is what they 'do', so I would just get on with it'
I heard nothing from him until 5 o'clock tonight, when he waltzed in as I was giving the children tea. He'd been arrested for assault while out last night. He's told me he punched 2 people and head butted one and has to appear in court in April.
I'm beyond horrified with this. I've told him to get out and he's gone to sleep in the car (I think). He is saying I'm completely over reacting about it all and 'I've never hit you, have I?' was his response. He then tried to say that he's got to go to court as the others are pressing charges, as if that made it all OK.
He has a major drink problem, and I stress every time he goes out. The last time he got in a fight was a good few years ago, but his drinking is a major bloody issue. Normally he will drink for days after going on a bender, as if to delay the hangover by keeping himself in a perpetual fog.
I'm now starting do doubt my own sanity about this. This is not how normal people behave. I can't bear the thought of the children knowing that anyone (let alone their Dad) can behave in such a way.
I didn't rant at him, there really is no point and he has always managed to twist most things I say. Just told him to get out. What would you have done? What should I do now? He'll just come back in the morning expecting me to have calmed down and it will all be peachy again. Have I over reacted?