Appreciate some thoughts and experiences...
D is 60 this year (I am a year younger) but we are both 'young' for our age and people think we are at least 10 years younger. (!) His recent review at work raised the possibility of him being given a global role for a few years ( he can retire at 62 if he wants) either in Europe or long haul. There is no pressure on him to accept any offer but he partly would enjoy the challenge.
I don't feel the same. I've spent all our marriage 30 years living many hundreds of miles from my parents and they are now approaching their 90s. I am still a 5 hr drive away and want to see them more, not less. I know that even with air travel I could reach them faster but it doesn't feel the same.
We have 2 DCs now mid 20s and they live away but are still in touch a lot. I have a job- 2 in fact- running my own small businesses, which I have built up over the years. Each is part time but i enjoy what I do. One job could be done remotely using IT.
But I feel no desire to uproot and live somewhere else. DH would have an instant network with work colleagues but what would I have? Too old for the school gate clique and too young for the 'retired' brigade. I also don't want all the hassle of either renting out or our home or having it standing empty.
But- I feel I am being a bit selfish because overseas work was always an option and I said no in the past as I didn't want to uproot the kids- so I feel I am holding DH back.