Husband 'popped' into the pub at lunchtime to check if I really was meeting the girls

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Husband of 23 years doesn't trust me. He is a very jealous and insecure person.
Last weekend I had arranged to meet the girls for lunch. He was working nearby and decided to pop in to see me. He didn't have a drink or lunch. He walked in said hello and walked out.
I am so cross with him.

We are going for relate counselling as it is. I have never cheated and would never cheat. Am I right to be cross

Yes I am wondered how I would be, on my own. DS 24 and 19.

But I have invested so much of my life to make things worth with him. I can't imagine not been with him. I wish he could be content and happy with what we have.

Hi funny

He isn't checking up on you lovely, his own behaviour is making him do it he is guilty of inappropriate behaviour to other women in your relationship. Because he cannot and will not address this head on, his mind will turn it on you so that you become the focus and not his guilty feelings.

I stuck it out for 20 years with my 'D'H - he wasn't like yours, he was a chronic philanderer, including with my 'best' friend. Also financially abusive, gas lighting. I stuck it out for the sake of the kids, always vowing to leave when they became adults.

I did and never looked back. The kids still ask me WHY I didn't do it years earlier. Please, dont' make my mistake. He sounds awful.

I was married for 23 years too, until my eyes opened. It took another two years to properly LTB. I can go out for lunch, chat to strangers, cut my hair short, wear tops which are cut low enough to show my collar bone , and never, never watch any war documentaries. What took me so long?!