DH wont eat the food I cook!

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Very fed up. I cook dinner and dh goes to his mother instead of coming home to eat with us.
He is home by 7 or so.
He knows I am making dinner.
Am sick of his comments about my cooking, family and friends all say I cook well, including his mum!
What wuld you do?

Is the the one who is from Ghana? It all sounds very familiar

Gosh so basically your home is just somewhere he comes to sleep - id tell him to stay at his DMs.

Thanks everyone.
V useful during pregnancy but a PITA now.

Get rid. It's part of a wider attitude of contempt for you which will escalate to further abuse. First thing to do is stop cooking for him, second is see a solicitor and find out where you stand and how best to proceed in ending the marriage.

Get rid, I agree. Tell him not to come home, and tell him his dm isn't welcome either.

Saatchi refused to eat nigella's food too, so I hear.

To undermine her as a woman, a chef and career woman.

Vile prick.

He didn't like the soup, ap ate 4 bowls!
He said chicken smelt odd.
Told him am not cooking tomorrow, cos he doesn't like my cooking.

sounds like a win win to me.. let him carry on and just buy food for yourself.. save a fortune in food bills.

Stop cooking for him OP.

have you posted this before, it's really familiar?

Nope, first time posting, u mean this happens to other women!

Is he from a different culture? My exes mum would make him Caribbean, I was ok with it because I couldn't coin like she did. She also used to send Tupperware for me :)

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Whats the problem? Dont bother cooking for him, saves time and money

Don't cook for him then.

I couldn't live like this, it would be a dealbreaker.

It is not that you are not cooking tomorrow, you just want include him in any meals. Cook for yourself and your child! Tell him, "sorry there is nothing for you, go to your mum"

I didn't cook this weekend, dh cooked basic food.
So fed up with his behaviour generally.

Passive aggressive behaviour, supported by his mum.

If you're staying with him then stop cooking for him. Id take a bet a few days of that, would elicit some conversation from him and then you can take it from there. Thats the thing with gameplayers..when you stop playing the game, they can't stand it. So they'll approach you looking for a way to continue the game..and thats when you tell him what you need to tell him.

I definetely wouldn't cook for him and Im not sure Id even be asked to broach a conversation about his behaviour. You can't teach a grown man to suck eggs, as they say. He is fully aware of what he is doing, and he is choosing to do it. Extricate yourself from the game. & put your feet up.

Are you the same OP whose DH won't tell you how much he earns?

It all sound pretty odd. He really doesn't see you as his life partner. There is no respect there at all.

Sorry OP, if you are one and the same, I would be packing his bags and seeing a solicitor. This is no sort of marriage and you could do a whole lot better.

" dh cooked basic food."

Nobody would blame you if you'd pushed it away and announced you were off to the chippy for your supper... Glad he shaped up a little. Make sure it carries on rather than being a one-off.

Ugh what a knobber.

How old is he?

Probably just out of shorts!!

"Men" (and I use the term loosely) like this (and the other types I read about on here) make me so angry. They have really let the side down.

Lol Covalone, I cant believe he got this far getting away with that behavior - is he lying to his mum and saying that your aren't cooking him something, so he sneaks over there?

Is he actually their (sorry)

This needs to be resolved!

Thanks everyone.