Dh annoying me - I need to snap out of it

[glassofwine]

Hi, I'm feeling v low tonight and don't really want to talk to any friends about it, so hope it's ok to vent here. DH and I have a great relationship, we are one of those couples who are annoyingly happy together, but in the last couple of days he's begun to really annoy me. In previous relationships I've found partners have got on my nerves a lot, but in this one it doesn't happen very often and if it does it'll be over something big. What's worrying me is that there isn't really anything major that's happened.

We are having some financial problems at the moment and he has a very cavalier attitude to money, which has got us into a mess on many occassions. However I have a real head in the sand attitude and leave it all to him even though I'm actually more sensible then him. So I don't feel that I can criticise the way he's done things when I didn't want to know about it. I'm trying very hard at the moment to be more involved and I know that it would be better if I could at least sort out finances jointly if not entirely by myself, but I get very stressed by it all. I think that I feel quite angry at him at the moment for the financial mess, but have no basis on which to have a go at him about it so am having to keep quiet.

I'm also finding the whole difference in our lives hard at the moment. I'm a SAHM and he commutes into London to a job which is long hours etc. He is enjoying work for the first time in years and although I'm genuinely happy for him and it's lovely to see him less stressed - I feel jelouse (sp). Tonight i knew he'd be working late as we are off on holiday and he's clearing the decks, but he phoned earlier and said would I mind if he stayed out at the pub and get a cab back from the station later. I don't feel that I can begrudge him a night out, but I was quiet and obviously pisse d off. He's having a nice evening in London and I'm here shouting at the kids because they're messing about and not going to sleep. I'm not being very fair to him, he is so lovely to me and adores me but I just feel shitty at the moment.

How do I snap out of this mood - it's not reasonable and I just want to get back our normal happy vibe. Anyone got anything to say?

Pre-holiday stress? PMT? Both things I suffer from and have to just keep telling myself that it'll pass in a few days time. Not very helpful to you just now though - sorry!

How about going to bed early and when you wake up in the morning it will be holiday time and you'll probably have forgotten all about it

don't have a magic answer for you but just wanted to say your message could have been written by me anytime in the last 48 hours as my DH had been driving me NUTS. gawd was he annoying. so you're not alone!
we are happier with each other today cos we got to go out last night and we had a bit of a chat and a nice meal and generally cheered up. i hope (and think from what you say) the same will happen for you when you're on hols. we have exactly the same issues as you - money and work (pretty common i think!) - but basically we get on and are pretty happy. so fingers crossed spending a bit of down time together will do the trick. good luck and have a good holiday. x

If its only been a couple of days, I wouldnt read too much into it.

Probably pre holiday stress.

I hope you're all right and that it will pass, it's not pre-holiday stress as I've hardly thought about it. We are going camping on Saturday and have agreed that if the weather is still bad then we won't go or will delay, so am feelling quite laid back about it.

I think it's because we do have such a great relationship that I get very pannicked if it starts to look rocky IYSWIm.