I have reached a stage where I know things have to change, but it seems such a huge task I don't know where to start.
My job - that I once loved - has changed so much, and staffing has been eroded to such an extent I feel as if I am constantly "firefighting" and only just keeping on top of things. I feel mentally exhausted by it. The nature of my job means it is confidential so I cannot offload much unless in supervision, which I do access regularly.
My relationship has gone stale - no sex since before Christmas, we are both emotionally detached from each other, found messages on his phone indicating he is having daily text conversations with another woman - nothing dodgy (yet) just chit chat, thing he would have used to talk about to me. I don't know whether to cut my losses or try to make it work - I am late 40s and worry about being on my own (grown up DC). The issue seems like the elephant in the room - neither of us are facing up to it.
My anxiety - I was diagnosed last year with anxiety following my son being ill, - had CBT as did not wish to medicate. I still feel anxious most of the time, like something huge and devastating is about to happen to me.
My drinking - I regularly drink so much that I don't remember what happened. I can go three or four weeks without drinking but then feel the need to get absolutely wasted.
I seem to have totally lost my confidence, having always been outgoing and busy, gradually I have lost interest in everything and do not seem to do any positive activities.
I know things have to change, but I don't know where to start.