In a nut shell my husband is impossible to talk to. Has communication skills and sympathy of a tadpole. So I turn to my friends. 1st time I mentioned quite general stuff to a mutual friend, who then told her bloke, who then told other people, and he ended up not talking to me for days. Said I was slaggin him off behind his back. Then I shut myself off from friends as was too much of a risk to confide in any1. Till i got back in touch with another mate who was going through same thing (so say). After so long of not having any1 to talk to, we both coincidentally broke down and vented to each other. This was my 2nd mistake!! I really thought I cud trust her as she knew what it was like having an overly private and restrictive partner. Today it has all blown up cause she told her bloke what ive said and he has gone to my husband relayin everythin!! He came home quizzin me like a naughty kid and I lied to him, told him they took it out of context because he goes so mad at these things. If I broke down and said that I cudnt take how miserable I am, he wudnt sympathise. He wud kick me wen im down, hed say how dare I tell other people his business like im a kid. I have never slagged him off, just wanted someone to go to wen I feel I cant cope. I have no family and now no friends to turn to. I still dont think its wrong to want to vent to a mate now and again, but he puts me down, sayin im bein inbred, gettin every1 involved in his business. Im not the type to bite my tongue to people other than my husbd. But he says I cant go and ask why they were so eager to reiterate my PRIVATE frustration. Instead I have to put a face on and pretend like nothings happened. Feel like im going mad!!! Is it just me?? Is it normal to go to your friends, and is it normal to expect them to keep it to themselves. I just dont no how to keep everything bottled up without making my mental health problems worse!!! I feel caged. I cant have any1 at the hse cause he doesnt like socialising, he gets a bit funny of I go to them as he thinks I shud be at home doin his t or cleaning or dealing with our 4 kids. I did go to counselling, but he doesnt see the need for it or for paying for it. I JUST WANNA SCREAM OR WALK OUT. But I cant do either. He hit me a few times about 6 yrs ago. We have done a lot to come back from that. He has brilliant control now and just walks away or tells me he is angry. He got a lot of help for it and os a completely different person. I just end up keeping my mouth shut or agreeing with him just incase, so I dont make him too angry. I feel like im stuffy inside. Clogged up with all the stuff I wanna let go of but nowhere to put it!! I feel pretty lost. Anyone else have this??