Delayed reaction to breakup?

[StellaDiver]

My partner and I decided to go our separate ways in late January. We had been together 5 years and although we were still very much in love we wanted different things for the future which couldn't be compromised on. I moved out of our house earlier this month, fully expecting to be a complete emotional mess once I was alone in my new flat. But... I've been fine I've had a little cry a couple of times when a sad song's come on the radio, but that's it. Either I have a heart of stone, or it's going to suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks any time now. Has anyone else experienced this?!

I've had this, then the ton of bricks.. Not to say this will happen to you... You may be feeling numb, be in denial... ? Have you spoken much about it? Does it feel real?

Thank you for replying. I don't feel particularly numb or strange, I've just been getting on with things as normal, really. Keeping busy with work and going out, though I've had quiet time as well. I have spoken to friends and family about it. I spoke to one friend in particular during the lead-up to the break-up, as I knew it would have to happen one day... perhaps I'd prepared myself mentally for it happening? It was still a shock when it did though.

I'm hating not knowing if or when the ton of bricks is going to come :(

Maybe the ton of bricks won't come ? Perhaps your subconscious is so sure of your decision you are already pretty far along the path of acceptance.

Maybe. I'd expect to be missing him at the very least though! But we are staying friends and I've seen him a few times since I left. Perhaps that's helping.

Maybe. Be thankful, instead of waiting for the axe to fall ?

It doesn't always have to be an Eastenders/Jeremy Kyle emotional fuck up when people decide to part company

I had a breakup like this. I was fine. Occasionally weepy, but fine.

Turns out I was just very ready to move on, and knew that doing so was the right choice.

Keep doing what you are doing OP, you sound fine!

I had exactly this a year ago and was the same as you. I was so torn and sad before I moved, but once it was done I actually felt positive most of the time, like I was going the right way. Occasionally had some tears but only the first couple of months.

I'm now in a new relationship with a guy who wants the same things as me and I know I made the right choice.

Thank you all. I shall try not to live in fear!

I know it doesn't always have to be a disaster, as I've had a couple of breakups before when I was fine - but in both those cases it was me who ended it, and I'd emotionally checked out of the relationship some time before the end. This time I still loved him very much, which is why I was expecting to be heartbroken.

Totally felt like you...the bricks didnt come!!! Mind you, I'd spend 2 years emotionally abused. I'd done my crying!

Wishing you all the best....may your happiness continue x

Thank you and same to you - well done for getting out! :)

Same here..I think I'd done my mourning for the death of our marriage while I was still in it. By the time I separated from abusive stbxh, I was emotionally done. Like a pp said, I'd done enough crying!