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Nooky night

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spiceoflife · 17/08/2006 09:49

Okay I am going to really brave and ask for some advice. DH and I have been married for 12 years and have two great boys. Our youngest is almost 2 and our sex life just isnt what it used to be. We just dont seem to have the time or energy for it. We have decided that once a week we will have nooky night to try and get things back on track (has been maybe once every 2nd month or so lately!!) I want some ideas...we are not very adventurous and there is some stuff I jsut won't do but would like some tame (ish) suggestions and ideas...
We ahve thought so far (well as you will see from list DH has thought..
Nurses outfit (apologies to any nurses)
Reading dirty stories together
Showers together (though to be honest I am at a stage of life where I just want to go in the shower and enjoy it rather than have a drooling bloke steeling all the water and freezing my back against the door... anywho...
Please help me with getting us back on track

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orangegiraffe · 17/08/2006 09:51

Candles, romantic dinner, then hot steamy sex......
at least once a week defo

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spiceoflife · 17/08/2006 10:24

any more please...candles etc lovely but tend to eat with the dc which kind of kills the mood with a 2 year old flinging food under the table to the dog and the four year old whinging ad nauseum "but I dont like thaaat for my dinneeer"

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JunkInMyTrunk · 17/08/2006 10:26

Nice dvd, bottle of wine, popcorn, choc, candles and if you feel comfortable with it, sit there in your nice undies....both of you

melrose · 17/08/2006 10:27

alcohol definitely helps, but only a bit or you just end up falling asleep!

tiredemma · 17/08/2006 10:30

have dinner after the children ahve gone to bed, a romantic meal with candles and some wine to "loosen" you up.

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spiceoflife · 17/08/2006 10:30

must admit deffo more in the mood when a bit sloshed...would be terrified of sitting in the lounge in our sexy undies... can just hear Nate's questions now if he comes out of bed for some reason

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fattiemumma · 17/08/2006 10:31

I am an Ann Summers rep so if yu want anything let me know. it saves you going into the shop as i can do it all through (discreet) post.

my idea would be that if you have designated 1 specific night a week to be adventurous how about each of you writting a list of things you would like to try....be as wild as you like.
week A is your turn to pick and then week B is his turn.
you both agree to do whatever the other has suggested.

don't panic as i am sure you have been together long enough and know each other well enough not to go too far in your requests but it may allow you to try things you usually wouldn't.

JunkInMyTrunk · 17/08/2006 10:31

wear them under your dresssing gown, that way you both know whats underneath but if you have children coming downstairs, they're none the wiser

GeorginaA · 17/08/2006 10:32

The board game Nookii - get a large bottle of wine, dimmed lighting and play. Focusses very heavily on foreplay with lots of new ideas. Great fun

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spiceoflife · 17/08/2006 10:35

fattiemuma like that idea though I just know dh will try his luck a bit on his list!!!

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Auntymandy · 17/08/2006 10:37

bit of role play. Pretend its your first night together!
Or pretend you have no idea what to do and get him to teach you!!!

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spiceoflife · 17/08/2006 10:41

just looked up the game nookii and it looks like it would be fun and not too out of comfort zones,

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 17/08/2006 10:43

TAke in turns to give each other an all over massage.

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:32

Don't put pressure on yourselves. Relax, talk and look into each other's eyes a lot. That will help get the juices flowing.

Oh and lick your lips. LOL

Auntymandy · 18/08/2006 08:34

Do we get feed back!!!

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spiceoflife · 18/08/2006 08:36

erm well nooky night is not till wednesday as we wanted some time to get some supplies (massage oils, candles etc)not sure if mn officials will appreciate a full account of the spice in the spice of life household?

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CatBert · 18/08/2006 08:41

Have him put your child to bed whilst you go get ready for your "date".

Spend ALL DAY thinking about it. Every spare moment you have "who cares what happens today - this evening, I'm gonna get rogered to within an inch of my life"

Then lie in the bath and fantasize about it...

You probably won't even get around to supper...

ahem.

Auntymandy · 18/08/2006 08:50

Dont want a blow by blow (or suck) account just was it a success or not!!
infact that makes me sound like a perv..lets just wish you luck and leave it there!!!

Chloe55 · 18/08/2006 09:01

oooh, GeorginaA, looked for that Nookii game and I have ordered one on line - it's probably the one thing dh won't mind me buying

Iklboo · 18/08/2006 09:05

It's a cliche but massage each other?

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