Please bear with me and don't be so harsh, I have been reading the Flats in Dagenham thread and it's beginning to hit home I probably need to end my marriage....
We have two DS 3&5; outwardly H doesn't drink much, charm personified, laid back and seemingly gentle wouldn't hurt a file type of person publicly. Lately he barks at the ds and is short tempered. To cut along story short, he has sworn in front the boys in the past, which I have pulled him up on and struggles with being patient and dealing with the kids; outwardly he appears a wonderful dad and DH; I have questioned a lot lately whether it would be easier for me to be a lone parent. I pull him up on his behaviour and he does try to modify, but it's not enough (rolls back into old ways). I feel I've had enough. I have threatened ending it if he doesn't improve, I am now beginning to feel I am at that point. A couple of weeks ago the boys were fussing downstairs and he leaps up and says I'm going to kill that boy! A complete overreaction - considering I let him have a lie in and he was no way involved with the morning routine of getting ready. DS was not in ear shot he said he was just thinking it but said it out loud!? But how he could think it let alone say it out loud and in front of me! I don't feel I can leave the boys alone with him. I'm not sure where to start; The thread I referred to is making me feel there isn't away forward, it's hit home I guess. He has assured me he won't say it again but that's not right?