Holy shit! Can't believe I am considering this!!

[Bigbird01]

I'm single. Have a friend who I know through a group of friends so know his wife kids etc. we get on very well and all has been fine and I admit that I have had a bit of a soft spot for him but have never acted on it!

Suddenly he has become very flirtatious with me. Last time we were together he kissed me (we were both drunk) and now he has made it very clear that he'd like to see a lot more of me 'wink wink'! For some stupid unknown reason I didn't tell to fuck right off! What is wrong with me?? Now I feel guilty, terrified how I'm going to react when he next contacts me and, even worse, actually really excited about seeing him.

I'm not religious, but I'm pretty sure I'm going to hell if don't get myself out of this!!

Help! What do I do??

He thinks you are an easy target. Don't give in to it.

You are all completely right (except bebow!).

AnyFucker, I don't know! I just don't know why I didn't push him away straight away. I left an unhappy long term relationship last year (and yes I do have children) and this is the first bit of attention I've had since then - not that that is any justification!

I am just so horrified at my reaction - it's so completely against my morale compass. I think I just needed a few people to shout me back into some sense. I am so ashamed that I haven't said no yet (and that I find it exciting) that I don't feel I could actually talk to anyone in real life...

Thank you - tomorrow I WILL do the right thing and tell him no.

You are the sort of woman who helps to break up marriages and break another womans heart. Shame on you.

Deary me, don't turn into one of those women who are flattered by any male attention, no matter how lowdown sleazy. That is a very sad position to be in. You are better than that.

Good.

I totally get that the attention is intoxicating after a relationship breakup.

But t's all smoke and mirrors. This guy is a prize twat. Find someone worthy.

It's not too late to do the right thing, love. Make it very clear it's a no-go in one succinct sentence and brook no further discussion/manipulation/fanny tickling.

I'm glad you're going to make the right decision.

His poor family. He has no regard for them, if it's not you, it will be someone else.

I understand it's flattering and just knowing there is potential to fan the spark into flame is always exciting. You may need to plan some more social life to take your mind off it - get proactive.

Doesn't mean there's anything wrong with you to be attracted to someone. It would be very wrong to do anything about it though. Step away.

Even if it was great sex. Even if it ended up being a relationship. Even if it broke up his marriage and you ended up together..... I wonder who will then take your place as the OW. Is that really the type of man you find attractive? Sorry, but you're a walking vagina to him. Nothing more.

Detach. Walk away.

Just in case the thoughts recur, OP... read Dahlen's post again... and again. For your own sanity, if not for anybody else's, don't do this.

You be glad to hear I put at end to this whole thing today. I've never wanted to be on the receiving end of some of the more critical posts on MN before, but it was exactly what I needed to shake some sense into me - thank you.

Good choice.

(and yes, what you were doing was a choice)

well it would be the road to hell if you went through with it.

having someone interested in you is lovely, but not someone who is married.

saying NO was the right thing - a wise girl once said to me “ just because a girl talks to you doesn't mean she fancy's you “- BUT i am sad to say most blokes DONT KNOW THIS and think your flirting - good luck – there are nice guys out there xx

Oh ffs.

Is this real?

Bleurgh. Kick him in the balls. Then tell his wife.

PS: Here's a biscuit for all of us who were stuck with slimy men like this at any point in our lives!