WWYD

[feelinghothothot]

When your DP's best friend confesses he is in love with you. Would you tell DP or disavow?

tell him.

Some men really like unobtainable women. You are being safely married so he can indulge all his drama queen tendencies and declare undying love without ever actually having to have a real relationship with a real person.

The only way to deal with these people is to refuse to become involved in their little dramas. Tell your DH. Send him a text along the lines of "Are you kidding?" Then take every opportunity to mercilessly take the piss out of his adolescent mooning.

You need to tell him, I can't see any reason not to.

I would tell my partner. A similar thing happened to me, although they weren't best friends. I told the GF at the time.

By not telling him, only bad things can happen.

There's not much to tell, because your partner already knows or at least has a strong suspicion, hence the row. I would be upfront about all texts/communication or otherwise it looks like you are siding with the bf. I am not sure your friendship will survive this though.

If your DP already suspects his friend of having feelings for you (presuming that is what the row was about) then by not telling him about the text it looks as if you respect the friend more than DP.

If it were me I'd tell DP straight away so that he knows his hunch about 'the vibe' was correct and he can treat his 'friend' accordingly.

I'd also reply to the text stating in no uncertain terms that you have always just viewed him as DP's friend, have no romantic feelings for him and don't want to pursue this conversation, as it is obvs from the argument they had that it would upset your DP, whom you love very much.

If it was the other way round what would you want dp to do?
I couldn't keep something like that from dh but that's me.

IMO, you should.....

Tell the friend to stop immediately, that you have done nothing to encourage his feelings and do not reciprocate them. Tell him that you are happily committed in your current relationship, and that his interest in you is inappropriate and disloyal to his friend. Tell him if he makes ANY attempt to bring this up again, you will tell your dp/dh all about it. Send the message in writing, so you can refer to it in future, if need be.

If friend does not 'cease and desist' after you've sent the message, then tell your dp/dh.

Tell your DH now, immediately.

Show him the text and ask him to tell his friend to stop.

Leave it to him to sort out.

You only have one sentence for the friend: Stop! Do not continue as I do not want any kind of relationship with you.