dh and i are separated but we are going to continue going to marriage counselling, and we have had little contact really for 2 years. i have agreed alongside counselling to start rebuilding our relationship outside of this - perhaps goinf for walks or a meal, that kind of thing. he still sees our 2 year old. at the minute i am not thinking of reconciliation - there has been so much hurt and pain i don't think it is possible - he would need to seriously change and i doubt he will... but at the minute i would like to focus on friendship with the teeniest possibility that we might get back together.
the advice i am asking is this..... do you think it would be ok for us to do joint activities with our dd? she is my priority, and i don't want her to be hurt if we start doing family activities together and then stop (if we are not getting back together and our friendship diminishes) on the other side of the coin, he will always be her father, she will always see him, and perhaps we will do some joint things together in the future regardless such as parent evenings, stuff concerning her etc, so will it actually cause her harm if we are doing stuff together and then stop? obviously we will keep all our difficult issues for counselling or when we are alone together.