if someone asked you 'what makes you feel loved'..

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Would you be able to answer?

I just asked dp and he said he didn't know what the question meant. I am just so fed up of living with someone so emotionally 'not there'.

I asked DH and he said it's when I 'just know' his day has been horrid, so I make him his cuppa, put a blanket around him and rub his feet (I have professional training) don't ask questions and just wait for him to rant. DH is a copper.

Do you and DP not have these small things? The little things are what matter.

Yes, the little things. making life easier when they don't have to, or it isn't expected.
going out of your way for somebody, being vocal and meaning compliments.
Being spontaneous, the odd bunch of flowers, even when you haven't done anything wrong or broken anything
Considering what you can do for somebody without expecting something back.

By my DP or by people in general?

By DP it's a combination of the little things she does (spooning me at night and whispering she loves me in my ear, bringing me breakfast in bed, buying me flowers), the fact that she completely stands by me and supports me in all major events in life. Also I suppose just the way she looks at me and kisses me

I was thinking of ordering a book on love languages as it looked interesting.