Hi, I have never posted on here before however I am intrigued to know your views on my situation. I was with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. We had a long distance relationship but did have plans to relocate.
The first 3 months into the relationship he went on a short break and met a girl, got her number and sent her messages, offering her a place to stay when she visits the UK. I didnt believe anything took place but was quite upset. A few months later my boyfriend went to a wedding overseas with his friend, this was planned before we got together. Whilst there he met another girl, who he messaged alot, there were 70 texts in 4 days. His last text to her was "I will miss you, kisses". I also found pictures of them holding hands and with their arms around each other on the beach. My boyfriend's mum was adamant nothing more had happened. He is very social which I understand but this affected my trust. I took him on his word. However, over the last few years I found messages to girls saying "you look hot" or "can I have your number". He invites girls he doesnt know to be his friend on facebook. It is worth pointing on that he is 37 years old.
Just recently I found a message to a girl on facebook who said she would take to him later, he replied by saying "I'd like that x". After seeing this I finally realised that I could never trust him and would never feel like we were in a committed relationship, the distance didnt help matters either. I have ended the relationship.
I guess I am just looking for independant and unbiased views as his family told me to accept him for him, he would would never cheat. However, even if he didnt cheat him messaging girls was upsetting for me and humiliating, which was enough for me to end it. Was I right to end it?