So im going to be 35 this year, my husband is 37 next month... we got together in 96 and when we met he had to young girls and I was so impressed with the whole single dad thing, his girls had just turned 2 and 3....we have never had a problem since and to this day we actually are probably more in love than we were at anytime in the past....we married in 2000 when I got pregnant and we had a boy together....the next 12 years were absolutely a dream come true..one I never thought or wanted to come out of. His girls were mine, no questions or doubts ever asked. their biological wasn't in the picture due to abuse and they never met her nor wanted to...last we heard she was in prison for prostitution or something. Anyways. Him and I have been both blessed with great careers, we have strong family bonds, big partys we would host every weekend. I was a stay at home, so I walked the girls all the way through. My...well his oldest is now 19, she graduated h.s. last year and was enlisted in airforce immed. ASVAP 98% amazing. My....again of course his other girl is now 18 and a senior...for the past 2 years Ive been ill and have needed a lot of care medically and of course time out of everyones life to assist. Slowly but surely Ive lost all the respect and love that has been built over the past 17 years from my husband, his mother, my sister in law, and of course its stemmed down to what use to be MY GIRLS. Well just in the past 3months. The 19yr/Airforce....backed out and moved out of her new place she had with a couple friends and decided to jump on board and take advantage of her dads great income. She takes his car all the time and does EVERYTHING she wants, smokes weed in home, like I said completely backed out of AirForce, trashes my home that I Clean, and doesn't listen to him and thinks Im just a joke now due to my ill condition for so long. But her dad disrespects me so why cant she right....um no. His other 18/Senior, is no longer graduating and rides his coat as well. I mean unlimited weed/cigerettes, gas for his car... they rob him blind and he doesn't care what so ever and now I have no say and when I speak up well, they curse me out and act like im out of my mind, screaming, defiance, you name it. And when I put my foot down or try to put them in their place and make them remember who they are talking to with threats of kicking them out for becoming drug addicts and taking advantage of my funds and home. He actually gets upset with me for yelling at them. I really dont blame them for the behavior though, they have heard their Aunt and Grandma, and his friends all talk shit about me like Im completely worthless and just Pond Scum, with my husband not contradicting anybodys insults so, why should they have respect when Im just his chick he takes care of all of sudden and need to get on with my life and get out..they act like im nobody and so far from not the same person that raised them and gave them the Amazing fun Extremely financially lucky house and home and who they called MOM for 15 years straight. My husband apologizes behind closed doors, still bends over backwards for my every need with pleasure and treats me amazing as he always has. FOr some reason though when I get upset at the girls, he flips and I have no clue who he is......NOW 2 days ago, I gave the oldest basically orders to leave my home. She yelled at me when she found out I was going to a Dr. Appt at the same time she had already scheduled to take his car out to go party with friends. It blew my fuse and I got in her face. For some reason he thought I was going to attack her with my fist or who knows what which I have never ever EVER done. I actually have never punched a soul in my life and he knows it. But as he jumped in between his daughter and I and violently was in the act of tearing me away, I reached for her arm and next thing I know Im tossed on the ground and she had me in some sort of head lock. Her weight was on my neck as my crouch was in my face. I was being choked out and couldn't do anything by his daughter and as I heard him yelling at me to leave her alone, in stead of tearing her off me, all of a sudden I felt punches all over my body and I began to black out. His other daughter was right there and our 13 year old son was right there as well and for some reason took his side as if he was in the right and it was wrong at me to be yelling at her. She got off of me as I was touching death. And Left and so did my son, his other daughter and he said you need time to think, and they drove off. Im still in the Most shock I have ever experienced. I was confronted by the police when I went to get some air, and they took the report as I told it of course and took 23 pictures of welts all over my back and head, my earings got ripped out, I mean Litterally I got jumped and Im pretty sure that's what I felt. Non stop punches from who knows where, but couldn't have been from her cause she was choking me out. After I kicked her out due to the warrant for her arrest for assult was issued and I was in control cause I did nothing I confronted my husband and laid down some new rules on how these girls perform. I immediately wanted to know who else was hitting me and I pulled it out of him that he was. Today I flinched when he came near me for the first time in our lives together and he became upset because of my fear that I shouldn't have. I told him, Im scared and He says, "Oh Ya, Like I hurt You!","It only happened once!" with attitude. Im still in shock and my head is still spinning and my body is bruised head to toe. I don't want to press charges on him as well, but he admitted to it. Im lost...............if you understand my panic typing and fear, please help. Should I let life just go on.....hes never laid a hand on me before but I got the crap beat, I mean BEAT out of me and he seems to think. He has no reason to lie and If I want to press charges he has no care of loosing his career or anything. Is this some type of middle age insanity that happens to men or what????