Split with my abusive STBXH well over a year ago. We share DC 60/40. He is a high earner and I was (now work) a SAHM so I am staying in the house until DC are older.
I have been absolutely fine with the support of family and friends. Ex has continued to be vile to me, start arguments and then blame me, threatened to move back into the house and make my life hell, you get my drift. My DC are my world, we have an extremely close and loving relationship.
In December he told me he was dating someone we have both known for years. He wanted to introduce her to our DC pretty much straight away (they had been going out for a few weeks) and I said no way it was too soon. They are still together and I know it's only a matter of time before he introduces her as his OH to our DC. I feel so much pain. I don't love him, I don't even like him so why do I feel like this? She seems like a nice person so I know things could be much worst. But the thought of her spending time with my DC is ripping me apart. His new partner and I share mutual friends and I feel like people have already taken a step back from me.
I tend to dwell on things - he mentioned he wants things in the open because he wants to meet her Mum and Dad - he couldn't even pass the time of day with my parents and only spoke to them when he'd had a drink. It pains me to know they are going out having a great time when he couldn't even communicate with me or show me any affection. It seems so unfair.
I have started counselling because I know I need to get rid of the sudden anger and move on but it's just so hard. Please tell me how you have coped with your DC meeting and spending time with your Ex's new partner.