The Other Woman has finally come out of the woodwork...

[Notnastypasty]

I don't know why I feel so shocked and upset. I saw it coming but still believed him when he said he was leaving because he wasn't in love with me and it was nothing to do with anyone else.

The thing that hurts me most is that they'll play happy families with my beautiful DD after their actions have ripped her little family apart.

How do you deal with the ow bring around your kids? Will time make me feel less angry? I know lots of others will have been where I am, just need some hand holding please and some advice on how to manage my feelings

Unreasonable for her to attend I mean.

Just take each day at a time, you don't want her at DD parties etc at the moment but in a year, two, five maybe, you might not even be arsed!

DD Parties will be attended with you, your family, your friends - if he wants to celebrate his DD birthday, let him organise one his end.

I've been split with my DD daddy for forever now it seems and it's VERY amicable, though i haven't and can't imagine ever inviting him to an event for her unless it's her Wedding.

Thanks for the perspectives - I hope time will help me to feel less angry. I don't want to be bitter, I really do want what's best for dd. Am feeling more positive now (for now at least!) thanks kaluki, offred and mumofjz - it is shite but you've obviously been there and come out the other side. Hope I can get there too.