Hi all,
Long time lurker, now seeking advice.
Been in a relationship for eight months now and for the general part we're very happy. Moved in together two months ago and it's pretty much been a seamless transition, however I'm now beginning to get annoyed at certain aspects of DP's behaviour.
It seems the opinion is, now we live together and I see him on a daily basis, I'm left with the scraps of time together and we don't really do anything meaningful together anymore. Before we moved in we'd have nights away, nights out, great fun and all that seems to have disappeared. DP sees no problem in this, he goes out to play sport three times a week, comes in at 8pm, has his dinner and then does work (teacher so a lot of planning). I work in a job whereby I walk out of the door at 5pm and forget about it. Anyway a bit off topic.
So, he does sport three times a week, spends most of Saturday with his family and then we usually have Sunday morning at home (where he does more work) and then maybe I'll get a trip food shopping. He's now told me on May bank holiday weekend he's going away for the whole time to a sport tournament and to be honest I'm feeling quite resentful. I get the time sat with him at night when doing work, an occasional Sunday hour or two, oh and Friday evenings where we try and do something. If something comes up like a random visit his Mum is making somewhere then our time would be cancelled for that.
In summary this trip in May, when I was looking forward to a day out or some fun at least has been wrecked by a tournament. Everytime I try and say how I feel he just shouts that all he wants to do is go and have fun and play football (and a night out) and that I should be a normal girlfriend and encourage it - well I would if he actually spent some time other than the scraps I get with him.
Not sure if all this makes sense...sorry for the long post. I've spent most of today seething about it and I'm not sure if it's me overreacting or him being a tosser!