For the past 4 months I have been dating a lovely man. He is kind, handsome, charming, very funny. I love spending time with him and up until now I have really thought he could be 'the one'.
And this is where it all seems to go wrong.
About three years ago I worked in an office. It was quite a young crowd in the office and we used to go out a lot. One guy, we'll call him Paul became quite good friends with me. I bumped into him one night when I was out with a friend, who we'll call Sally, and the two of them hit it off and ended up dating a few times. Then it transpired that Paul already had a girlfriend, she was pregnant and had a miscarriage. Naturally, Sally stopped seeing him, Paul and the girlfriend hit the skids but continued to be together. I stopped being as friendly with Paul as I really didn't appreciate what he done to my friend and his girlfriend. It was all rather awkward but he soon after moved to another company as did I.
Soon after this some strange things started happening. First of all my facebook and hotmail were hacked into. I admit I was very lax with my security settings on both facebook and email so it would have been easy for someone to get into them. Some of my friends started getting rather rude emails from my hotmail account. About the same time my wee mum died so I had a lot on my mind. A few months later I started receiving mail in the post. Someone had signed up my address up to sex toy and gay magazines so it was basically junk mail with a sex theme. Around this time I started to get silent phone calls on my landline at night. I reported this to bt and I also went to the police as I thought they might all be connected. I also had a strange feeling that somehow Paul was behind all this. The police traced the calls and told me the last four digits of the mobile number and asked if I had any contacts with these numbers at the end. I got in contact with Paul and asked him if he knew anything about these incidents. He said no. As far as I knew him and his girlfriend were still sort of seeing each other (I think he was just using her at this point).
Anyway, the police then arrested the person behind the phone calls, and charged them. It was Paul's girlfriend. I was gobsmacked as I had never met her and could not think what I could possibly have done to deserve all this harassment. Anyway I went mental at Paul and have never spoke to him since.
So anyway. It turns out that the man I am now dating is the brother of Paul's girlfriend. She's married now with twins. I still haven't met her and my boyfriend doesn't know what she done. I honestly don't know what to do. She really scared me, those months were very worrying and creeped me right out. I don't know if I should end things with him, I just don't know how I can face her and don't know how my boyfriend would react to all this. Me and him have just booked a holiday and I'm already being a bit off with him, I know it's not his fault but I just want to run away from him despite the fact I really do like and care about him so much and I'm pretty sure he feels the same way about me.
Any advice would be appreciated, I'm sorry this post is so long.