what do you talk to your partner about? - we have run out of interesting things to talk about!

[tinytitch]

just wondering what you talk about with your dp - myself and partner both work at the same place (i am on mat leave at mo). we only ever seem to talk about work and the children. we don't have any shared interests really and we spend our evenings drinking wine and watching tv, i have told him i think it is boring talking about work and children but it seems to be the only common ground we have.

When we are bored we discuss politics and as he is right of Enoch Powell and I am just left of Karl Marx it tends to liven the house a bit!

tsap - how reassuring that me and dh are not the only politically divided couple. we're both left of centre but he's a very independent thinker about politics - won;t fit into a mould and increasingly (like last night, for instance) comments that he's beginning to understand some of the arguments from the right...this was on "identity politics". For me he's really rather challenging because his motives are lefty, but his methods are somewhat right.

He talks ,I listened, have stopped now, when i realised he viewed anything I said as an interruption. Just tell him things he needs to know,I dont engage in conversation. Surprisingly calming to me.

I sometimes do the "what are you thinking?" thing to kickstart a conversation, but it does irritate DH enormously.

It sounds really geeky but we've had some fab (and practically free!) nights in playing silly board games, card games etc. Usually livened up with a glass of wine or two, and card games you can gamble with maltesers/jelly babies etc... my OH wouldn't go out unless he had to either, and I felt bad about going out all the time so I just ended up inviting friends over quite a bit for dinner, not in a scary dinner party way but more in a 'bring and share' capacity. He's got to know my friends a lot more than he would have done and we have a decent evening of conversation!

thewomanwhothoughtshewasahat we disagree on so much I wonder sometimes what attracated us to each other. I think that like your husband dp has left wing motives but usues right wing tactics to achieve those motives. I find it quite hard at times as thew kind compassionate man that I fell in love with can come across as quite ruthless and cold in his politics. I find his views on immigration and mutliculturalism quite abhorent really and if I had known them sooner we probably would not be together. He responds by finding me very unpatriotic and willing to see the good in every country but our own - which I do not think is true. Despite his strong political views dp also despises politics and politicians whereas I am very active in local politics and probably eventually will enter politics on first a local and then a national level.

I love being adventourous in my food and will eat anything where as he is a real meat and two veg man and I mean meat and two veg he will only eat carrots and peas!

I ama real social butterfly love to be out and about being the centre of attention, dp is a real home bird, whenever we are going anywhere as we set of he says "What time are we staying until"

I have a glass or two of wine every day and am not averse to getting merry , he doesn't drink at all.

I am really unorganised and just sort of float through life knowing it will be ok in the end whereas he has an army background and everything has to be planned to military precision. So for example when re arramging furniture I will just keep doing it until it looks write. He will accurately measure the room draw a plan make cut outs of the furniture we are moving and move them about on his plan until it look right and then he will move the room.

WE love games in this house, we were playing operatation last night! Also play poker, scrabble, boggle, monopoly, risk and many more. But both of us are very competitive.

how to operate a lathe was the other morning's topic of conversation. I was being 'educated'

Yay, the boardgame thing isn't just us! Was going to reccommend operation! I am also a fan of word games (taboo, especially) and he is not, but you can play pictionary with two people and it's still fun! You could always try one of those 'I love the 80s/90s' trivial pursuits, nice nostalgic stuff, which prob would lead to amusing 'do you remember' type conversations!

tsap and hatlady we can no longer have political discussions in our house because my bf has now decided that he is so disillusiond about all politicians that he 'can't be bothered even to moan. need shooting, the lot of them', (but also because he knows I despise his 'slightly' rightwing views on immigration and similar issus and am dying to 'challenge' him...

we talk about all the things listed below and also sex - well it gets you in the mood!!

maybe we should'nt bother with the talk - just sex!!

Dh and I had an 11 hour car trip yesterday (with the kids). Along with saying 'Stop fighting you too' on regular occasions we planned next years holiday, discussed the situation in the Lebanon and had a wildly funny conversation about who duo'd with Tom Jones on the Reloaded album. We also discussed all the music we played in quite a bit of detail and had a long conversation (kids too on this one) on what we think is going to happen in the next Harry Potter book (we just finished listeneing to book 6 in the car)

Not so bad after nearly 19 years together. Makes us souns a bit nerdy tho!

Sex mainly.
What we like about each other.
Sometimes I tell him what I find annoying about him but its a one sided conversation generally.
Future plans- short term, long term.
Music.
Nights out we've had.
Our friends and their nights out.
My children.
His work.
Anything that might be on the news and takes our interest.

But mainly sex and how loved up we are.
I feel queasy just thinking about it.

Am just starting to get backinto having 'conversations'with dh now ds is one...instead of just crashing infornt of tv together etc...
We chat about politics - usually ranting about the state of the world (when we first met he was yet to fully shake off the influence of his fairly conservative family - I have now succeeded in turning their son into a pinkoliberal! Well, more of a slightly anarchic liberal , but that suits me ) , music, friends, family, ds, work, the merits of the simpsons and south park, mumsnet ( except he can't see the attraction ),

martianbishop- not at all. Have been with dh for 8 years, married for 4, and hope we can have 11 hours worth of conversations when we've been together for 19 years!

Trying to think what we talk about:

kids
his work
my work
friends
big brother (much to his disgust)
things we are thinking of buying
things that need fixing
family
news items
celeb gossip
tv and books
childhood