So it took shit on the loo seat to snap

[Mintymoomoo]

So after 6 months of huge issues etc over his drinking I told him to piss off and get out over some shit on the toilet seat!

I'm 13 weeks pregnant and when we first discovered this unplanned pregnancy he acted like a total dick, getting smashed and trying to make me have a abortion on the basis that he would marry me next year and maybe we could try for a baby in a few years (I'm nearly 35) whilst referring to the baby as "that little cunt" I have had previous post about this! We split up then and I stupidly gave him another chance after he promised to get help for the drinking and attend AA meeting...... In the space if 3 weeks he has stopped going to meetings and now says he is just having a brake from drinking until football season starts then will drink more in control!

Final thing for me was this morning when he basically lined up my 3 children to demand to know who got shit on the loo seat! The fuss he made was just bloody stupid, I just looked at him and realised we can never live together he makes me and my kids miserable, he is just not a child friendly person..... Why have I put up with him and put my children through this for the last 2 years?

So now I will be a single mum to his baby (my 4th) but I'm feeling postive and I think I will be fine, please someone tell me I will be and that you to have been in this situation.

Just needed to write this down

Ignore him, don't put your kids through any more misery! Walk away, who gives a shit what he says.

Either ignore him, or text back 'Shut up, we're not interested'. But best to ignore.

He's not your problem anymore. You don't need HIS shit, and you're going to be great without him.

I have a 4th DC with a gap. They adore him and having a Iittle one has enriched their lives.

Well done you. Be strong dude

OP you have done magnificently in getting this bozo out of you and your children's lives. Be strong, be happy and be proud. And enjoy your lovely little family.

Thank goodness he has gone.

Of course it could have been his shit on the loo seat!

Anyway, you are well rid of the utter knob.

Well done, you did the right thing. Make sure you log everything with your midwife so you can push for supervised contact in the future with you unborn baby, maybe using a contact centre.

43percentburnt sorry can you explain a little more about the logging with the midwife? Do I need to do this? At my booking in appointment I told mw about the drinking issues etc as we had split up then and he had stated he wanted nothing to do with baby. Is it a good idea to keep midwife informed on all this? Sorry for all the question with my last 3 I was married and this stuff just never came up

I would say yes it's worth keeping her informed. It may come to nothing but if you have cause to push for supervised contact or need to go to court for any reason then a paper trail will help you hugely.

Hi I posted similar last year when I was pregnant,,, partner abused alcohol and was just horrid to me, saying didn't want baby and generally abusive/aggressive. I stayed. It made the pregnancy/birth/early days soooo hard. I finally told him to leave when baby was 5 months. That was 3 months ago.

You are right to start your life with your kids and new addition as soon as possible. I wish I had got out earlier.

I never informed my midwife (I wanted to, but kept it all to myself) but told my doctor when he did leave. I have seen her a few times since and I am a tlc patient (!) and she has been amazingly supportive. I have a court order (non molestation order) against him which I mentioned to her and she was fully supportive of. I can't see harm in keeping medical professionals involved, but at end of day will be social services and court who will deal with issues.

Good luck.