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Sounds fishy

9 replies

1nonblonde · 14/08/2006 20:34

My partner of 2 years has just come back from the pub looking like he'd seen a ghost, I asked him what was wrong and he said he'd just bumped into an ex and he had to leave the pub as she's a nutter. I just said "oh right" and left it and then he said "this has really left me shaken up" ?? I said "she cant be that bad surely? what did she do?" and he told me he was seeing her about 4 years ago, found out she was married and then went to finish it but she turned into a bit of a bunny boiler, her family tried to get him thrown out of uni etc etc...

I'm wondering if something more has gone on here and thats why he's so petrified...what do you reckon?

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noonar · 14/08/2006 20:37

if he hasn't seen her for that long, could be a real shock for him to see her again. i'd give him the benefit of the doubt tonight, and ask him more about it in acouple of days, when the dust has settled.good luck.

rubles · 15/08/2006 11:04

Do as Noonar says.
It's strange that you didn't know this before, though, as that is quite an interesting story and I would definately know if that had happened to my dp.

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zookeeper · 15/08/2006 11:09

I don't think he'd have told you if he had anything to hide

HappyDaddy · 15/08/2006 11:49

So he's shaken up because he bumped into an ex who was a bunny boiler? What did she actually do when he bumped into her? If nothing, he sounds a bit over sensitive?

jasper · 15/08/2006 19:36

I have an ex that was a bunny boiler.
Iw would be very shaken up if I met him in the pub.

i have never told dh about him,

jellyjelly · 15/08/2006 20:48

maybe she really was nasty and he tried to put it out of mind? maybe she said something. Maybe there have been threats in the past and he wants to protect you. would sit down with a cuppa or glass of wine and ask for the full story.

I like to think the best of people so i might be a sucker.

gingernut · 15/08/2006 20:52

I also have an ex who was a bit unstable (bunny boiler seems a bit too strong though). I would be very shaken if I bumped into him anywhere. He sent me a card a couple of years ago, to my current address and I have no idea how he got my details. It made me feel sick just getting a card.

I would do as noonar suggests.

VeniVidiVickiQV · 15/08/2006 21:04

Does sound a bit like he was covering his arse a bit by mentioning it. Mind you, I am old cynic I am.

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