Post date etiquette - am I meant to give feedback or something?

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I went on my first proper date on Tuesday ( past relationships have been with people I've already known through friends or work). I got chatting to a man on Facebook a couple of weeks ago and he asked me to meet up with him.

So I did, it was ok. He was half an hour late which annoyed me but we went for lunch anyway and chatted. I was a not bored, it felt awkward. I only stayed an hour and a half then made my excuses.

For 2 weeks leading up to the date, he texted a lot, every day. After the date I text to say thanks for lunch and he replied saying it was nice to see me. We exchanged texts for a bit, with him saying he would speak to me tomorrow.

I didn't hear from him at all yesterday. I didn't text him either. Am I supposed to text and say that I dont think we are suited or is silence just what you do if you don't want to date again?

I think I am going to need a thicker skin if I am going to start dating, I'm a little put out that he didn't like me even though I felt the same about him and had a bit of a confidence crisis wondering what was wrong with me (before I realised that there was probably nothing wrong with me, just as there was nothing wrong with him, he was friendly, polite boring there was just no attraction)

Oh dear, I would ignore any future texts !!

That's more or less what I wrote WannaBe, I would've thought that it would've come across as a polite brush off - if it was the other way round I would've gotten the message.

How very strange. Either he meant to send them to you, in which case he is a creepy man who doesn't take no for an answer, or he is dating you while also having a clearly more established relationship already on the go.

Either way, you've dodged a bullet.

Oh dear! Further up thread i was about to say that there's no harm in replying, but perhaps much later that day, and with something brief. I thought maybe he was feeling rude to go from lots of texts to none, and was being polite.

But i see that he seems to be a bit of a game player. I'd just ignore now!

Plus i think you can turn 'message read' notifications off in most apps. Handy.

I will have a look at how to turn off the message read notification (using an iphone if anyone knows how). He got my address from Facebook! It comes up where you've posted from on somethings - I posted on one of those give away for free groups and someone messaged me saying they lived a few doors down from me! I was a bit freaked out about it! I don't know if he knows which number I live at though.

Bloody facebook! Does it do that?

Oh FFS

He's an arse

Erase and move on. Just ignore.

you need to change your privacy settings on facebook to "only my friends can see me/look me up/message me"

Then defriend the weird guy, if not already done.

On your iPhone: settings/messages/send read receipts - switch to off

Weird bloke. I strongly suggest you do not respond to any more messages, as this will give him the incentive to keep pestering you. If you ignore him, he'll soon give up and move on.

I'd dump just for the use of the word 'Hun' but yes, do as other's have suggested. You owe him nothing.

Thanks - I turned off my read receipts. I haven't replied to any texts, I'm still getting the odd "how are you hunni" texts though but I think he will have totally given up by tomorrow!

If not send one last message:

Dear Sir, your many messages to 'hunni' are odd and out of place. They are making me feel a little uncomfortable. Please cease and desist. That is please stop. Thank you for lunch but I do not wish to continue any kind of relationship with you.

Then block, ignore etc.

Great you haven't sent any messages. Do not send one last message as this will encourage him. Even blocking his number( if he knows it's blocked) will encourage him. Keep ignoring.

Another text last night and one this morning. All saying pretty much the same thing. "Hi Hun, how are you?"

I haven't replied to any of them, I haven't blocked him either as I don't now if that means his message would bounce back to him. Definetly dodged a bullet there I think - I bet he would be really possessive if he was in a relationship with someone!

Oooh! He does sound like he might be, doesn't he?

Ah well. Good luck getting the message through telepathically

He's sent me a whatsapp this afternoon (I've blocked him on there now) asking again how I am, and telling me that his dog died. He's doing well though, only 3 messages today! The message must be sinking in sloooowly

Is there any reason you haven't just told him no thanks? I would simply write 'Sorry, there was no spark for me. It was lovely to meet you though, all the best for the future.'. Job done, and if you bump into him it's a lot less awkward if you ever bump into him in the street.

Even if he was awesome, I think anyone who would use the term Hunni is an absolute twunt. It's the biggest red flag ever. Even the though of using it, or anyone referring to me as Hun, hunni or the derivatives makes me shudder.