Am I expecting too much from family?

[Symmi]

Just had heated conversation with sister in law. She phoned to tell me she and her family would not be coming to DS Christening as they are going away for the weekend. Claims I didn't give enough notice which is probably true (invites went out a month ago).
I am really upset as I thought we were close friends as well as family. DH not that bothered as he never has high expectations of his family. I'm more upset than he seems to be.
Actually I've been really pissed off with her as she has shown little interest since DS was born (4 months ago)2 phone calls if that and absolutely no interest in seeing him. We were close in the past spending lots of weekends together even though we are miles apart. We have children of similar ages and have shared a lot together. I had hoped the Christening would be a good oppurtunity to get close again and I really wanted to show off latest DS. I feel really let down. Oh and by the way my MIL can't come either as her husband is ill. This, although dissappointing I understand totally, it just makes my SIL's absence even more upsetting. DH family really small so will not be represented at Christening.

Feel better now just for writing this down. Thanks for listening!

at SIL not coming for you all, do you think she maybe a bit jealous of you having a new little one? do you have one more than her?

Frisbe
Hadn't thought she was jealous as she's been very vocal about not having any more children .But in saying that we seemed to drift apart through my pregnancy. I've got 3 Boys she has 2. Hmmmm something to ponder.

Where are they going though? If its something they've booked and paid for, or arranged a long way in advance they can't go really can they.

out of all our parents, only my mum came to DSs Baptism, and my sister. Families are funny things.

They're going to cornwall with friends all paid for so they would lose money. I can understand her predicament I'm just peed off with her attitude and lack of interest really.

hiya symmi, im thinking the same as fizbe, that maybe she is jealous of you.

I think that if I had already had plans I wouldn't cancel them for a christening (even if it was family). I would certainly make an effort to arrange some other kind of meet up instead though.

I could also imagine being quite upset if I had organised and paid for a weekend away with friends and they cancelled a month in advance for a family christening.

Well before I had either of mine christened I rang round close family (parents/siblings) and checked they were free on the dates I wanted. So sort of assumed they would come! Took a bit of effort as well because they weren't helpful!

Are they religious at all? Did they have their kids christened? If not it might be that she doesn't see it as important (this from a church phobic!)

I've decided that in the wider scheme of things this is a minor diappointment only, and to quote Catherine Tate "Bovvered"!!!!