Sorry this is long
My OH has never been there for me emotionally:
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When we first got together we got pregnant. We decided on an abortion. After the procedure I went to waiting room but he was not there to pick me up. Apparently he fell asleep in bed. I was broken hearted but so in love and confused I decided to try and forgive him.
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10 years later and I want to get married. I ask him. He says yes. We spend the next 6 months arguing about it as he clearly does not want to marry me. I cancel the engagement and we carry on as before. My heart is broken.
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Last year I became pregnant again. I am initially over the moon (its what I've wanted since the abortion) but begin to get Pre Natal Depression. He spends the entire 9 months going out and getting drunk. Smoking in front of me (I was a heavy smoker before pregnancy) and calling me names like "lunatic" when I was hormonal and going mad about him staying out, spending money, coming in pissed. He showed no emotional support and treated me like shit.
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Now that baby is here, he is a hands on dad, but he is not there for me emotionally. We have a laugh together, like the same things, do (some) stuff together. But I just do not get that emotional support from him that I crave. We don't have a sexual relationship anymore.
So. Am I being unreasonable by staying with this man? Or am I expecting too much from a naturally unemotional man? I've been with him 15 years and have / had some wonderful times. But I can't seem to move on from all of the above.
Sorry if I sound confused. I am!
Thank you for reading - if you managed to get to the end of this post!