I don't know where to post this message, but thought "Relationships" is as good a place as any.
I have got a good friend from school who I see quite often. Recently, she has come onto me twice (I do know when someone is "coming" onto me, and she definitely was).
We are both married and have children and, as I said, have known each other for ages. Whenever we have gone out on a "girls night out" before, we have always had a dance (as girls do) but I never thought anything of it.
Last year, my friend and her husband had a party. At the party, she had a bit too much to drink and started coming onto me. To start with, it wasn't too bad but then she started "flirting" with me, saying how nice my hair looked (while she stroked it) and how sexy I looked! She asked if I would meet her upstairs in her toilet. I didn't know how to react and as she walked out of the front room to go upstairs, she looked behind herself at me as though beckoning me to follow. Needless to say, I didn't and she came back downstairs after a short while. She asked while I hadn't met her upstairs and I just said that it was difficult for me to leave the room as both our husbands were present. Not the best excuse I know, but I was embarrassed and didn't know how to deal with the situation.
Later on, she asked me again but this time I just laughed it off.
When I next saw her, I didn't mention it and just put it down to a drunken mistake on her behalf. I am sure she is not bisexual, just may be looking for attention, although she might have got the wrong impression from when we have been out before together.
Nothing else happened until one night last week. Again we had gone out for the night and her man (she is having an affair with) didn't turn up. I drove her (and three other friends) home and on the way home asked how her evening was. She was very, very drunk (not legless but had more than just a skinful!) and she said that the evening could have been better. I asked if, by that, she meant if "so and so" (her man) had turned up and she said "no, you know what I mean". I looked at her strangely as I didn't know what she was talking about and all she said was "we will talk later". Whilst driving my car, she was stroking the back of my hair (which my other friends commented on aterwards as they thought it a bit strange). When we got to her house (she was the first drop off) she said to me "you coming indoors to collect the things I am lending you?". She had not mentioned about lending me things and I took it that she wanted to be alone with me. I just replied "oh, no tonight - I will pick them up some other time".
I have not seen her since this night but this is twice she has put me into an uncomfortable situation.
May be I am reading the situation all wrong and she is just being friendly, but I now feel it will be difficult for us to go out again (with other friends) as I don't want to give her the wrong impression.
I find situations like these quite difficult to deal with - at the end of the day, may be I have read the situation wrong, but if I haven't, I don't want to hurt her feelings.
Anyone else been in the same situation. If so, how did you deal with it?