please can you help me address something. ive always felt my marriage has missed something. ive tried to remain positive, ive tried to overcome arguments and such like but the feling remains. my husband is not a good communicator. he doesnt believe things need to be talked about. if he wants to do something he rarely discusses it with me. this goes for financial decisions too. if he wanted to start a business he would tell me about that, not ask for my opinion or aceptance but probably talk it through with me as he was planning it. regarding the finances of such an operation he would classify that 'as my money so its my risk,' even though if it fails it will affect us all. this is how he thinks. he even says things like, 'i changed my mortgage last week.' that is so strange to me because it essentially means the house is his. he pays all the bills and i pay for food and stuff for the kids. there is no discusion about what money is going where. there is no discussion about my excess money to pay towards finishing the mortgage early. nothing. he wants to pay for everything but i feel it is because he essentially wants to own everything. in addition to this and owing to the lack of communication about sometimes very important things i feel like im just travelling through life as his 'helper' in the sense that he wants his partner next to him. if i have a conversation with him about something the next week he wont remember what i told him so theres always a disjoint. yet if i speak to a girlfriend she will say oh yeah and what happened next. im aware men and woman are different and no i dont want my husband to act like a woman but this just isnt a marriage. nothing feels right. he could actually be married to anyone. he told me once men just need regular sex. what a charmer. has anyone else had the same experience. weve been married 6 years and have 2 children.