not sure where to start

[MojitoMomonga]

Some Mumsnet friends suggested this thread...but, as the title says, I don't know where to start. Maybe it will be a chance to get in touch with other women who have been there and done that just to have a thread to chat and support each other on.
I'm not that confident at sharing this on MN to be honest, but to cut a long story short, I got out of an abusive relationship a while back but didn't get counselling (and don't want to go down that route for various reasons) for it. I know I would probably end up in another abusive relationship if I got involved with another man so I have made the decision that I won't be having any more relationships, I'm glad to have that awareness of the risk though. It suits me being on my own, I like being my own boss.
Well, that's it, if anybody else has been there, done that and wants a thread to post on maybe this is one that you could use.

[Twinklestein]

Mojito - can you talk about why you don't want counselling? Counselling with a specialist in DA it might really help.

Otherwise, you can do the Freedom Programme online:

Freedom Programme

[MojitoMomonga]

Mainly because it's a can of worms I don't want to open, I'm functioning in my everyday life, my children are doing well and whilst I can't claim to be happy I am content. If I start talking about it then I am worried I will bring things to the surface that I can't cope with.
I will look at the freedom programme online though, thanks for that idea.

[FolkGirl]

Mojito I can understand that. I'm having counselling once a week since early in the New Year. There are some weeks when I feel fine and just find it interesting; some weeks when I can barely remember what has been said; and other weeks when I have such a revelation that I can barely make it through the following week. It can certainly be very draining.

Well, I said on Sunday that I wasn't quite at the point of saying "never again". But I think I might have arrived. I have been 'seeing' someone for a few months and we're meeting this weekend to discuss 'us'. The closer I get to it, the more confident I am that I'm going to end it.

The more threads I read on here, the closer I look at my male friends and the better I understand my friends' marriages, the more I feel like I'm looking for something I'm not going to get (to be loved, cherished and respected) by someone who isn't capable of giving me that (a man).

[FolkGirl]

I've been having counselling...