As the title says we both really do love and care for each other an awful lot but we can't carry on like this. We have been married for 5 years and have no children. We desperately want them but it hasn't happened yet and I'm glad as we couldn't bring children into this. We argue and bicker often, usually over nothing but ooften over our families. There was a falling out between them before we got married which still causes major tension between us. Whenwe row we shout and scream and call each other horrible names. Occasionally we physically hurt each other, more often him hurting me I have to say. We have got much better at not letting things get that bad recently. We have very little in common and spend very little time together; I work a million hours a week and that isn't likely to change. We are very tense around each other and worry that anything we say could spark the next row so we don't really communicate. I know that you will all say that we should split up but I really don't want that and am looking for some practical advice to improve things.