When we met 11 years ago it felt like we were soul mates and best friends and were totally in love. We got married 7 years ago and have a 3 year old daughter, but over that time since we had her, our relationship has just gone flat.
I know that it's common to lose the romance a bit / a lot when babies come along, sleep deprivation and then the chaos that toddlerhood brought have all chipped away over the last few years, we rarely dtd, I don't feel romantic towards him at all and we bicker all the time. I can't help thinking, is this it now for the next 50 odd years?!
Our dd has been the best thing to ever happen to me, but although dh would say the same, he finds her very difficult to deal with, he has no patience with her whatsoever and often raises his voice & gets very stressed & bothered by silly things like her refusing to put her shoes on / brush her teeth. He has always wanted to be a hands on father from the day she was born, and he was brilliant with her as a baby, but since the terrible twos started he just can't seem to handle her & is permanently stressed by her : ( He tries hard to have lots of fun with her, playing games, going to the park etc but it always seems to end in tears.
Everything about him seems to annoy me these days, and we can't agree on anything. Having our dd brought us closer at first, but now I'd say we're further apart than ever, we just seem to function through daily life these days rather than be loving, intimate, interested in each other like we used to. Is this it??