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I need sex 24/7 even to the point I may cheat :(

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Helpme1985 · 07/03/2014 08:23

I have NC for this . I have 3 DC with my partner and we are a very happy family as things go. However once a month over 4 days I'm as horny as hell , even to the point I could walk past a random guy and just wanna f**^ the hell out of him . My DP is great in bed and always makes sure I reach O and more if need be but about a Half hour will pass abd I'm ready to go again . I think this is during the time I'm ovulating as it comes over me with a bang . It's not great as I don't want any more DC I do have a coil. I don't know if maybe Im bipolar or something ? I'm worried that one day I will take this too far and have sex with someone else . :(

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Helpme1985 · 07/03/2014 14:09

I'm not mentioning to DH the wanting other men part , it may cause trust issues , it takes over in the respect I can't stop thinking about it. Yea it's great when we have sex loads don't get me wrong, I'm just worried I may take it a step too far and cheat one day , I will
Try and write down when these days occur and see if it's around the same
Time each month , I think it is , I don't want to go on the pill , it gives me
Other problems .

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somedizzywhore1804 · 07/03/2014 14:15

OP when I came off the mirena to ttc I got like this. Have you recently come off hormonal contraception?

As I was ttc I was having lots of sex but it still wasn't enough. I was masturbating 4 or 5 times a day for about 3 or 4 days a month. I totally identify with what you're saying about wanting to jump on random guys (although I never did!) I was finding the weirdest men sexy!

I don't think I had a hormone dysfunction or anything.... It was just my body trying to get me pregnant.

If you're not on a hormonal contraceptive perhaps consider one?

And remember YOU are the reason you would cheat- nothing else, no circumstances or hormones- and it's optional, so put that out of your head. You won't cheat and you won't consider cheating.

Miggsie · 07/03/2014 14:18

You may need to see a sex therapist - I think your GP could refer you to one.
Otherwise you can find one privately.

I think it depends whether you want a medical solution (possible drugs to stop urges) or a control/behaviour solution where you still have the urges but are able to deal with them without distress.

I have days like this - not sure why - I fantacise (sp?) pretty constantly about utterly unobtainable men which stops me jumping anyone in RL although I almost did goose my best friend's husband last week....arg! That was a bit of a close one.

Energetic fitness workouts seem to help - I do step and weight training now. Gets the heart rate up and breaks a sweat so sort of simulates the physical side.
BTW I AM on the pill so don't think that would be a solution!

LoisPuddingLane · 07/03/2014 14:18

The fact that I still get it in my 50s makes me think my ovaries are having one last big hurrah and going "You could still have another child, you know?". Yeah, thanks ovaries. I'll stick to my dildo. Not literally.

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Helpme1985 · 07/03/2014 14:21

I changed from the pill last October so maybe that's what it is ! Maybe I'm not going loony ? However I do not want to ttc I have enough with the darlings I have for now. I can't control the urge , I'm Hoping this coil will do the job if I'm ovulating it needs to bloody darn work ! Did your body adjust ? Or are you back on hormonal contraceptives now ?

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NewtRipley · 07/03/2014 14:29

If you don't want to see your GP, what about a Sexual Health clinic? They really will have seen and heard it all.

This sounds really troubling - it's worth doing something about it

kentishgirl · 07/03/2014 14:42

I think it's normal to feel horny around ovulation (mother nature trying to make us get pregnant) but it sounds like it goes rather further than normal with you. Has this always happened or is it a recent thing? Agree you should see your GP, I now it might be embarrassing but it's worth it if it's something that can be sorted out. You obviously aren't happy with it.

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Helpme1985 · 07/03/2014 14:52

I think the last time I was horny like this was when I was about 17/18 I'm 29 now I feel like a bloody teenager

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somedizzywhore1804 · 07/03/2014 20:26

Not sure who your question was aimed at OP but if it was me, I'm 23 weeks pregnant now so I have no sex drive Grin

I never had it whilst I was in the mirena though.

NettleTea · 07/03/2014 21:36

So now you are not on any hormonal contraceptives? the coil is just a plain one?
Sounds like a hormonal imbalance - one going sky high during ovulation.

as a herbalist (NOT A HOMEOPATH before anyone starts giving me grief - we use stuff with active ingredients in) I have given people Agnes Castus tincture to help their menstrual cycle come back into balance. If you have been on the pill then the chemicals have replaced your hormones and they tend to just switch off so it takes a while for the 3 different hormones to start to be produced at the right levels, at the right time. It probably might take 3 months or so, but you only need a teeny bit a day.

And I can understand the feeling - when I was pregnant with my first I had a point in pregnancy when I felt much as you do - totally due to the hormones at that point.

FastLoris · 07/03/2014 22:30

Sounds pretty much like how it is to be a man.

Except that's all the time. Smile

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Helpme1985 · 08/03/2014 14:04

It's just a copper one yes . I feel sorry for the men , seriously poor creatures lol

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Helpme1985 · 08/03/2014 14:06

Thanks Nettletea that is interesting and hopeful , I will look into it :)

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mercibucket · 08/03/2014 14:35

i suggest more blood tests esp thyroid seeing as that was borderline slow. sometimes thyroid yoyos between hyper and hypo and you can get weird symptoms. also general hormone test? go and see the gp, basically.

Kittymalinky · 08/03/2014 14:41

If it happens a few days every month, regularly and you don't suffer from crippling, can't get out of bed depression you're not bipolar I'll promise you that.

However, sounds like your hormones are a bit off so GP might be a good idea.

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Helpme1985 · 08/03/2014 19:50

I do suffer bad depression and anxiety , I've just come out of a bad stage of anxiety and depression which lasted 6 weeks , I really am worried as we have have had sex 4 days on the great trot Nd I
Still crave other men

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FastLoris · 08/03/2014 20:32

Do you specifically crave OTHER men, or do you just crave more sex?

Say, for the sake of argument, your DH were some incredible stallion who could just keep having sex over and over again all day, and were able to take those four days a month off work and do nothing but shag you.

Would that solve the problem, or is the promiscuity an essential part of the desire?

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Helpme1985 · 08/03/2014 20:53

I think it may be the promiscuity , tbh, think its like I'm looking for something else . I mean as I've said DP is up for and will do anything , he is a good leader etc i can't ask for anything more so I guess I'm wondering what other men have up their sleeve Blush

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Foxred10 · 08/03/2014 20:59

I get this for 2-3 days a month, and had it for around 2 months when I was pregnant with DS2. - totally hormonal.... I never worried too much about it TBH as I knew no matter what I WANTED to do, I knew I could control myself and never actually do it! Shock

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Helpme1985 · 08/03/2014 21:20

God I hope I'm not pg that would go down like a lead balloon right now ...

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Helltotheno · 09/03/2014 08:17

I think it's more to do with your relationship tbh. I'm definitely as you describe around ovulation time and I think many women are, but basically I'm too taken up with the usual stuff to give it much thought.

No point in discussing it with your DH unless you're willing to discuss the other men aspect because that's the real issue.

Of course it's worth ruling out anything medical but I can't help feeling it's possible you're setting up a justification for cheating.

Branleuse · 09/03/2014 13:31

youve come out of a deep depression and now are scared you wont be able to prevent yourself cheating and being promiscuous?

has your gp ever suggested bipolar?

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Helpme1985 · 09/03/2014 15:18

No my GP are prey crap tbh very much rush u through your appointment but I'm under a psych soon so they may pick it up hopefully they will .......

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LoisPuddingLane · 09/03/2014 15:18

I don't think that having a (temporarily) high sex drive necessarily equals potential promiscuity. When I get "like that" I want the release, but the last thing I would do would be entice some stranger in to do it. If you aren't a promiscuous person, then you aren't a promiscuous person. That action, that crossing of the line, takes a conscious decision - it's not just a hormonal thing you can't control.

gamerchick · 09/03/2014 15:25

It's ovulation .. very normal for a lot of woman and is just the bodys way of getting maximum amounts of sperm to fertilise an egg.

Our bodies are very clever like that.

its a long standing joke with me and the husband when i tell him it's that time again and he'll offer me his leg.

Get a rabbit and knock yourself out.

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