How to handle this friends situation?

[tigerbread123]

About a year ago I fell out with a friend. TBH she had done/said lots of things that weren't very friend-like, but the final straw was when I refused to take her daughter somewhere, and she turned up at my house ranting and raving at me. She said some awful things and tried to slap me round the face. I decided at that point that the friendship was over and done with, and that was that, and I told her so.

Our daughters are friends at school and I have obviously seen her several times at the school and at things like parties, but I am always polite, but I refuse to have anything to do with her. I have told a handful of close friends about what she did, but I don't bitch about her. In fact, she's just no longer on my radar really.

During the past year she's taken it upon herself to be-friend lots of people that I am friends with, including the women that I am close to, and who know about what she did. Of course, I don't expect anyone to take sides or anything like that.

However, now two of my close friends keep badgering me to 'be friends' with her again, saying things that life is too short to bear grudges (I don't bear a grudge, I just don't wish to have her in my life), and making excuses for her doing what she did (she's lonely/depressed/was having a hard time).

To be honest I am getting sick of it all. Like I said, I don't expect anyone to take sides but I do expect my friends to respect my views, respect my decision and to acknowledge that she did act badly. I don't see what they are going to achieve with their actions apart from pissing me off? I did mention to one of them that I am upset by how she keeps justifying things, and she tried to back pedal but it's actually put me off being good friends with her now.

How would you handle this situation?

I would reply 'lols. Do grow up!'

Tempting to reply ''Yes, probably for the best. PS Don't forget to watch out for the right hook''

God they sound tedious, will they all be co-ordinating their outfits aswell?

Text back:

'Thats fine, it's an assembly, it usually doesn't matter where parents sit. See you.'

Eegits all planning on sitting together, like 5 year olds.

Let them at it OP.

Its like being a teenage girl all over again.

I was friends with a girl, I apparently committed a huge sin by texting this bloke she liked for his mates number, she went ballistic, insulting my whole family, gave out my number to strange blokes.

I havent spoke to her in about 10 years, despite a few attempts to get in contact. I have no desire to ever speak to her again.

Life is too short to have soul suckers and their little minions in it.

How about just a simple 'oh do fuck off, dear'...!

Muppets

She texted to tell you where she was sitting in assembly and you weren't welcome, na na na? Seriously? That's funny.

I would text back "Are you seven years old? And do watch out in case she thumps you." Except cool politeness is probably best now.

Meanwhile you've been Wendied. Were you good mates with these other women?

Don't worry. Once you've faded from view, not given them anything to discuss in terms of gossip and they've lost their favourite subject, the rotten egg will show her true colours soon enough. Either by Wendy-ing someone else or belting them!

I'm glad you've got other pals.

How did it go?

She tried to slap you. No matter what people say you shouldn't forgive.

What a lot of silly girls. They are obviously bonding over the 'situation' and ex-friend is probably revelling in being the centre of attention and in having lots of discussions about what they are going to do about you.
Avoid the whole silly lot of them, continue being polite but distant, and make sure you hang out with people that respect your choices.

Wendied. Yup!

Not worth the bother, the lot of them.

I'dd not be encouraging any friendship between the dds either tbh.

What does 'Wendied' mean?

What does 'Wendied' mean?

What does 'Wendied' mean?

Shit sorry screen froze!

It basically means, you have a friend, who you introduce to other friends, this friend will then take your friends, via any means, and have you cut out.

tigerbread you sound like a lovely person who is worthy of good friends. Stick to people who are worth your friendship (wish I could take my own advice!)

Love the reply text 'are you 6 years old? Better watch out x might try and thump you'

Or try 'we are all adults, you can sit where ever you like'

Or text her 'I suspect I'm being wendied'

This woman's actively trying to take your friends off you. However, it sounds like the friends are more acquaintances and no great loss, so I would suggest leaving them all to it with a polite smile. She's expecting you to be angry and hurt and get involved, if you treat the whole business as not very intersting and not very important, it will annoy the crap out of the bitch and you can have a good private laugh over it.

I too had a "friend" like yours OP. She managed to find my mothers phone number and rang her to say she was concerned about me?
She told me how fortunate I was to be able to talk so easily to people, to have the ability to make friends and have a social life.
She would glean as much negative information as she could about my friends, and in hindsight I can see she used this as a way of driving a wedge between myself and people I cared about.
This "friend" also begged me not to tell her parents she was struggling after splitting from her husband. I told her it was not my place to speak to her parents about her situation as I though she was handling the situation very well.
So...she then "befriended "some of my close friends. She'd call to arrange a meet up and when she didn't turn up I'd call and she'd explain that she was with " my friend" and how she knew things would be awkward etc as, "friend" also thinks I've got issues and thinks it would be advisable not to meet up.
Upshot was my friends eventually saw her for what she really was, but the damage was done.
Give her enough rope........