I'll try and keep it as brief as possible while at the same time trying to help myself by venting some of the anger out.
My mother is a very bitter person. I could stop there but i'll go on...
It all started around 8 years ago when my mum and dad, married for 25 years split up. My dad had had enough and finally called an end.
Shes still angry about this. she has remained on her own the entire time slowly sprialling into a bitter mess and drinking excessively (though she never admits it). I understand she is lonely.
My brother doesn't speak to her due to her bitterness and nearly all of her family and friends have disappeared, therefore I am the only one left.
She believes they are all wrong and she is the sane one.
I am married, have a great relationship with my husband and son and more importantly my dad as well as my inlaws.
She gets jealous at any mention of their names. We live close to our inlaws and she resents the fact that we see them constantly as well as holiday with them. I love their company.
She complains that we never visit (we try to visit at least once a month, we live 2 hours drive away).
We are unable to spend more than a few hours together before we argue. The arguments are normally due to her comments. Example below;
Mum "what did you get up to last night?"
Me "went out for dinner and then to the cinema"
Mum "Oh what it must be like to be made of money..."
Mum "What did you last weekend?"
Me "visited dad"
Mum "I don't know why he gets to see you all the time, after what he did to me, what goes around comes around"
Me "What does this have to do with me?"
Her comments are beyond bitter. She drinks excessively now, though refuses to admit it. The last few times I have phoned her around 6:30pm she has been drunk but has refused to admit it, saying she is tired. She says she cannot afford to drink but I borrowed a carrier bag from her recently to take something home and inside was a reciept for a bottle of barcadi.
She loves my son to death, but lately, he has been annoyed by her comments (he is 12) she says things to him like "do you not love me anymore" (apparently jokingly) and "why do you never call me" He's still a child and it hurts him and its got the point where he doesn't even want to call her anymore. He's old enough to see the biterness too.
My husband dislikes my mother and normally hides in another room as he can't stand her comments towards us and me. I've had her up for Christmas day every year since she split with my dad however 2 years ago I decided no more as I wouldn't see my husband.....
I told her today I was going on holiday with my inlaws this year. She began making jealous comments and asked why they got to spend so much time with me and she didn't. I had to hang up.
I wanted to tell her the truth. The truth that I couldn't handle 1 full day with her let alone a 2 week holiday.
I sometimes wish I could tell her I don't ever want to see her again.
And relax....