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Would you be annoyed at this?

4 replies

Radley · 10/08/2006 16:37

Yesterday dh was in bed because he had been on nights the previous night, so rather than wake him I went for a bar meal with the kids and my bf. We sat outside to eat our meal and the kids loved playin on the toys etc, a friend of ours walked past and asked if we wanted to go into town for a couple of hours, my bf managed to get a babysitter, i text dh and asked him, I KNEW he would be awake at that time and all he said was 'Remember you have to pack' (we are going on hols on sat) i got home and he was very quiet with me etc so i didn't go.

Today he went into town with our next door neighbour for a pint and a game of pool, he said he would be home for tea time, i just rang him to ask him to get a kfc for the kids as a treat and he said he is stopping out now, he was slurring his words then, so goodness knows what state he is going to be in.

Am I right in being peed off, yes he has been working hard and deserves a day off, but, if I said i would be home at a certain time and rung him to tell him i was staying out, he would go up the wall and not speak to me for ages.

Also, I CANNOT remember the last time I went out with friends into town for a drink, and also, why should i always have to be the one to pack?

OP posts:
eefs · 10/08/2006 16:45

no you are not being unreasonable for being annoyed at:

  1. being expected to pack
  2. not getting the same consideration for your nights out as you give to his.

but think that the time to raise the packing issue with him was at that time while on the phone to him rather than mull over it and explode at a later time.
The second issue is a bigger one I think.

easier said than done - i tend to mull but know that it is not very productive in the long run.

give him a list of items the childrens stuff to prepare for packing and make him aware that he obviously has to pack for himself.

Radley · 10/08/2006 16:55

Thanks for replying.

The packing is all done now. BUT I am going to sit on my fat arse and do bugger all when it comes to packing to come home, he can bloody well do it.

He is going to come home, smell of stale ale and cigs and flake out on the sofa.

Yesterday we were only going to our local beer garden for a few drinks, sit outside and then come home. When we go away, we are staying not too far from one of my mates so he is going to have the kids and I am going out

OP posts:
CountessDracula · 10/08/2006 17:00

God no

I would go ballistic

CountessDracula · 10/08/2006 17:01

I hope you didn't pack his stuff

If you did, unpack it now!

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