How the hell do I take it to the next level???

[LittleDonkeyKong]

I have been seeing a guy for the past month and feel ready for it to turn erm sexual!

How the hell do I move it to the bedroom? We have been snogging on the sofa but it hasn't really gone any further. OMG I sound and feel like a 16 year old!

I separated from my husband last March and have 2 DDs who are 3 and a half and my baby is 6 months. I was with my ex for 6 years and I am so scared of having sex with someone new. Its a whole different kettle of fish when you 24 and have no responsibilities to being a 30 year old single mother of 2 small children.

I also feel slightly strange about having sex in the house with my 2 kids present!

Argh its so complicated!!!!

[LittleDonkeyKong]

I don't want to get to the crucial moment, ask him if he has 1 and he says no!

[Offred]

Even if that happens it won't be too bad. Happened with my new partner, he just went to the shop.

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Trip to Tesco with kids in tow to buy condoms this afternoon. I suppose I had better put a few other things in my basket too lol

[Offred]

I once bought a packet of cigarettes, some condoms, chocolate and some bottles of beer quite happily at the sainsbury's cigarette counter as a supposedly respectable grown up! It was fine... The man serving me didn't even wink at me or anything

[Offred]

I chicken out of face to face buying of lube though. That get delivered!

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Lol I will hold out on the lube buying and see how it goes!

[PoirotsMoustache]

I was exactly like this with my now DP! In the end, I just stopped for breath in the middle of a heavy snogging session, and whispered 'Do you want to go upstairs?'. The alacrity with which he nodded and legged it up there led me to believe that he may possibly have wanted to do so...

Just go for it, there's very, very little chance he'll say no! Have fun

[LittleDonkeyKong]

OMG!!!!! I have just blurted out the whole condom thing to him via FB message!!! Shoot me now!!!!

[skyeskyeskye]

haha, I was just looking for the "like" button then . I'm guessing he will get the message now that you are up for it

[LittleDonkeyKong]

I think he was a bit shocked then said "Gentlemen are always prepared "

[LittleDonkeyKong]

God I do embarrass myself sometimes!!!!!

[skyeskyeskye]

I am laughing so much here, sorry .

Can just imagine him rushing around Sainsburys now filling his basket with Durex, with a big grin on his face

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Don't worry so am I!!!! I bet he thinks I'm a right tool!!!! Maybe I should of waited until we were in the heat of the moment but I guess its done now lol

I highly doubt it as he will have his kids in tow! All I can say is that he better have some by tomorrow night!!!!

[redundantandbitter]

Nothing better than a prepared gentleman. There's nothing wrong with mentioning condoms... Gives him a little nod in the right direction too.. Ahhh I am happy for you... How you managed to NOT have sex is incredible. ... But I reckon it'll be worth the build up . GOOD LUCK. (I was also going to mention lube....)

[Cabrinha]

Oh well done!
Don't worry, I had my first sex post childbirth, with a new partner... I was soooooo nervous. Like a teenager the first time - gagging for it and willing, but nervous!
I was actually nervous and shaking, could relax and gave up.
Just as we went to go - clothes and all - I had the urge and it happened. It wasn't graceful, but it was done.
Worst case scenario - sounds like you have a man there who'll give you a hug and laugh WITH you (if you can laugh!) if it's a bit awkward!
(not trying to scare you - I'd also gone 5 years without, you see!)

And I did buy the condoms with 4yo in tow - just unavoidable as it was last minute... I told her it was a little box of chocs for a friend! She said "mummy get the red ones, not the blue chocs".
In my head I was all "no darling, mummy doesn't want extra thick, mummy isn't planning to reintroduce sex by going for anal" :)

You just have to laugh, OP... Sex can be amazing, and loving, and dirty, and intense, and all sorts... But above all, it should be FUN!!!!
Enjoy ;)

[JaneFonda]

Cabrinha, just did a little snort at your post! :o

Good luck OP, hope it all goes well!

[TheVictorian]

To anyone Although slightly off topic. if you have just begin a relationship and your very kinky in the bedroom (picture whips, toys, bondage furniture ect) when telling your new partner about yourself do you tell them straight away what you like in the bedroom ?

[LittleDonkeyKong]

Well everything was going swimmingly I asked if he would like to go upstairs he said he was fine where he was on the sofa. We got started and halfway through the bloody hamster started going mad on his wheel then the baby decided to start serenading herself very loudly!!!! Had to abandon ship halfway through but I fully intend to get a sitter Tuesday night and finish what we started at his gaff lol

We had a good laugh about it and then talked and cuddled for about an hour.

Oh the joys but it wasnt even half as scary as I expected

[whattodoforthebest2]

Yes to the condoms.
Yes to the glass of wine.
Yes to finding your inner hussy... If you think he's just waiting for the go-ahead, prepare... Wear your new underwear, invite him round and when the moment's right, take your top off - that should do the trick!

[whattodoforthebest2]

Sorry... Was on the wrong page ... Bugger!

[Dinnaeknowshitfromclay]

Harf! Enjoy!