Is he being unfaithful ?

[jacksmum7]

Ive had my suspicions and a feeling in my gut that something is going on with my husband for a long time. Recently i remarked to a friend how he makes excuses to go to the store most nights to get something or other , even when i say we already have that thing he says oh well i have to get this that or the other.i saw a medium recently and was going to ask her if she saw anything to do with my husband but i didnt need to ask. She told me s heap of things that were right then went on to say my husband has been having an afair for a long time and theres a child. She told me her profession and that they meet while walking the dogs.she told me what type of dog she has too. The thing that made me worry is that it didnt surprise me and answered lots of questions .

Is he a secret smoker?
Otherwise call him when he's out with the excuse you want him to get you something if his phones engaged you know he's phoning someone else, so ask him who. I'm not sure how you could have an ow in the time it takes to pop to the shops.
I agree that the medium is just taking advantage of you.

The medium's observations certainly seem to point to a clear, damning conclusion. But as others have said, it may be unwise to take rash action just based on that.

If I were you, I'd read his palm and check his tarot cards just to make sure!

OP says her gut feeling has been there a long time.
That would drive you insane.

Look, I'm as scathing, sane and sensible as the next person about the bollocks that is mediums, but years ago after years of unsuccessful TTC, it crossed my mind "if they could just tell me one day... to keep me going..."

What I'm saying, is years of stress does silly things to you.

OP, you might be a loon :) But if you've had years of suspicion, your head will be all over the place.

Now, these mediums feed on what you give them. Very clever at it too. So what you fed her, is stuff that really worries you - like, the OW could be a dog walker. There must be something in your H's dog walking behaviour that worries you.

If I were you, I'd clear myself some time, and write down EVERYTHING that makes you fear an affair. Some people are just paranoid, but I think most people having a good gut instinct. Listening to yours will tell you where to look.
If you think he goes out to call an OW on these frequent shopping trips - check his phone. Listen to your gut.

The medium has no more idea than I do - but that doesn't mean it has been a wasted exercise. You can't go through years more of suspicion, it's a horrid way to live. x

How long does he go out for, when he goes? Is he maybe just nipping out for a ciggie?

He goes to the shop most nights? How long is he out for and what does he bring back with him?

All Mediums are fakes, don't listen to them.

When I make excuses to go to the shop, it is for a sneaky cig.

Yes and mediums are all fake.

Maybe the medium is the OW?

However, the secret smoker theory holds more water. I always know when my DH is back on the fags because he starts volunteering for all kinds of chores that take him out of the house in the evening.

Dh was sneaking out to the shops... To have a cigarette! Cos I give him grief everything he smokes!

I can't get past the idea that a day at work and a commute counts as me time FFS.

OP won't be back, not surprisingly. Initial posts focused on what she said about the medium and shit canned her for it. I'm sure if, given the chance, she would have explained more fully her gut feelings about an affair but after being told she was insane etc. probably didn't feel comfortable to supply more info. Well done for your support everyone!

Teaonesugar, it was only one person who said that, fortunately. Hopefully a temporary lapse of judgement.

If anyone actually meant that when they said it, their partner would be well advised to get all the me-time they wanted by running for their life.

BTW i am not talking about those who posed intelligent questions and who advised not using a medium as a concrete assurance on a gut feeling. I am concerned about those who jumped on the OP as only using the medium as her 'evidence' when she clearly said she has had concerns for a long time. Women get socialised away from their gut feeling, usually because it is so accurate it is threatening. There are situations where it is way off because of past experiences but, people post here to get advice because they are aware that their radar is a bit off. IMO those of you who feel the need to demean another person are an automatic red flag that you have lost your gut.

DH goes to the shops every day. For food and other household items. Not for turgid sexting sessions with OW.
All mediums are fake and mercenary.

However, if you feel something is wrong, excepting what the medium said then you need to talk to DH.