Regarding bullies.

[superstarheartbreaker]

I am so fed up with having to defend myself against bullies: abusive men, workplace (in the past), school (in the past), etc, etc.
I'm not the strongest person but I'm not a complete wimp either and I just want a break and find some nice, kind people with whom I don't have to watch my back.
I've never really felt this burning desire to rip into others in order to make myself feel good.

She was not the kind of person that I have any time for, not somebody that I would want to reconcile with. It might seem childish to some but I don't really care. I didn't ostracise her from anyone but me, she still had her friends and I never ever tried to turn anyone against her. I apologised to my team mates if it made things difficult for them but I'm not going out of my way for someone like that. I was on just above minimum wage, the hardest worker on my team, but not paid enough to put up with that. My team leader didn't seem bothered!

Its fine that you disagree, were all different and deal with things differently.

I don't see why I should prove that I'm not a bully... When I'm not! We were different and disagreed on many things... That doesn't make somebody a bully! It was just easier to not talk... Rather than having accusations being thrown!

I was bullied, by boys and girls. There are now two Dammitsues, the one you meet....and then years later when you have proved yourself loyal and not a dick, you meet real dammitsue. To say I am guarded is a massive understatement but tbh, you can't hurt me until you actually know me.