We've had a really rough time over the last 6 months. I've been seriously ill and am left with a disability. It's a big life change for all of us. We have a DS with a disability too so my DH has suddenly found himself having to be a carer for both of us quite out of the blue.
My DH is dealing with it all by drinking too much. He's always been a fairly heavy drinker but he drinks every night now.
Once a month or more his work place puts on a social event with a free bar. He goes out and gets absolutely plastered. He says he'll be home at a certain time but I know he won't get home until someone puts him in a taxi at the end of the night. I've found him laid out on the floor clothes half off semi conscious several times.
Last night was one of these events and I found him on the hallway floor in a terrible state. He slept in the spare room last night and went off to work this morning in his very responsible job with a stinking hangover. He texted me to say he was ashamed of himself and it wouldn't happen again but I've heard it all before.
He has always had a dysfunctional relationship with alcohol. He has alcoholic parents who are massively in denial of their problems. He went through a period of drink driving a few years ago and only stopped when I told him I'd report him to the police if he ever did it again.
We've both had our fair share of irresponsible and dysfunctional drinking in the past but I've grown out of it whereas he is drinking more.
Perhaps I'm being a bit precious about it all? He's a truly lovely man coping in a difficult situation, why shouldn't he go out out occasionally and let off steam? I'm confused. Does he have a problem?