Looking into each others' eyes during sex

[missryangosling]

Is it weird that I cannot and have never been able to do this? I am in a relatively new relationship but have never been able to do it - not even with my ex-partner of 8 years.

I am quite prudish (feel fat, need some clothes on, lights off etc.) and have never fully let go with wild abandon, sometimes fake orgasms to get it over with - not just with new guy, always. Have I got some deep seated intimacy issues? Nothing bad has happened to me, no bad sexual experiences and i'm pushing mid-thirties so shouldn't I be in my prime? Does anyone else share these issues, close eyes during sex etc or is it just me?

[Puttheshelvesup]

I can't hold eye contact during sex at all. I can manage the odd glance now and then but anything more and it's too much and feels too exposing and overwhelming. However, I do have AS and prolonged, starey eye contact at any time makes me feel like running away and hiding

[K999]

My DP is cock eyed (pardon the pun).

It's virtually impossible to look into both of his eyes at the same time.....unless I'm drunk, in which case, it's fine

[JonSnowKnowsNothing]

Used to fake orgasms, never do now.
Don't have much sex these days as been single for years. I miss it though. When I do snare some poor sod find a willing partner, if they're clearly a one nighter I just shag them. If it's someone with potential or someone I've got history with, I look them in the eyes. Not in a porny kind of way...but just because I think you can tell a lot about someone by looking into their eyes. Yes, sounds lame!

[NoArmaniNoPunani]

I couldn't do that, I'd laugh, the laughing would make my fanny contract and DH would finish

[BettyBotter]

Sex is like sneezing. It is physically impossible to keep your eyes open.

[LoveVintage]

Not all the time, but if we do catch eyes it is really intimate feeling. DH has really deep eyes and when he looks straight into my eyes, even after 20 years together, it always makes me shiver.

[JonSnowKnowsNothing]

I couldn't do that, I'd laugh, the laughing would make my fanny contract and DH would finish
Haaaaaa!!!!! Did a big snorting laugh at that and the cat's fucked off my knee!

[Jolleigh]

I'm not actively against eye contact during sex. It's quite nice when it happens. But it doesn't work very well if you like it rough. Putting aside the fact it would look very strange, being face down in a pillow or wearing a blind fold has distinct obstacles!

[redundantandbitter]

Bit of both worlds... Some slower more intimate sex and eye contact is was very nice indeed. But then you can't do that when its that crazy bonkers type of sex . He probably would have stopped and asked if I was ok. And spoilt the momentum. On the whole I am a looking into eyes kind of person. He used to love it, allegedly.

[soontobeslendergirl]

it makes me cry :(

[ThinkIMmad]

I had 6 partners before my DH and i cant remember ever looking into their eyes, i used do like a nervous giggle which i remember one of the guys getting really paranoid about the giggling thinking i was laughing at him i wasnt i just wasnt that confident with my self and sex and i guess with him either i used to feel really embarrased if i let out a moan or any weird noises i know that is daft now but as a teenager/young adult i was just really nieve.

With my DH its always been different i think it helped i was pissed out of my head the first couple times we did it (not that im suggesting anyone go do that)after that I just felt really comfortable with him from the start and during sex he would tell me how beautiful i am and just the way he would touch me i couldnt help but stare into his eyes i did find it weird when i first realised we were starring into each others eyes but its just the norm now i dont think we even know were doing it. The nervous giggling soon dissapeared aswell although i do giggle alot on occasion but its because im happy not because im trying to discuise sex noises

[ashtrayheart]

No I can't, dp does this weird jaw grinding thing it would put me right off !

[LEMmingaround]

I have actually tapped DP on the shoulder during sex and said "i'm down here" because he tends to zone out and stare at the wall but then i shut my eyes anyway

[ThinkIMmad]

ashtrayheart - sounds like 1 of my exs lol

[TonyThePony]

I had an ex that used to try to stare into my eyes the whole time. It felt try-hard and intense, made me uncomfortable. He was one of them poncey tortured artist types though.



TMI ALERT

I've also never been able to look a man in the eyes while giving oral sex (sober at least). I always want to but it feels a bit much.

I probably have issues.

[RedFocus]

I love looking into my dh's eyes during sex, it's incredibly erotic personally.

[kentishgirl]

Love it sometimes, makes things really hot. But not all the time and not in a soppy doppy way, no puppydog eyes please!

OH's eyes turn black when he's really really really horny, which freaked me out at first as I thought I might need to call in a priest to do an exorcism.